Who you want to meet
Alternative dating, without a scene guide
Alternative is not one single type. Joining, browsing and sending messages are free.
- Free to join and send messages
- Messages screened automatically
- Running since 2010
Join free
Who you might meet
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People use alternative to mean tattoos, a music taste, non-monogamy, a faith outside the mainstream, or simply that they felt out of place on another app. Those are not one community. An account and an outgoing message cost nothing. If a particular practice matters, name the practice. Reading a reply and writing back need a plan.
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A list of clubs would be fiction with opening hours, so there isn't one. Do not message a stranger a theory about their clothes. Do not assume a festival-goer wants the same relationship shape as anyone else. Ask.
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Say what you want, keep the first meeting easy to leave, and end the thing in words if it should end. Screening runs on messages.
What to say
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Ask what they mean
Music, non-monogamy, a look, or weariness with other apps. The adjective cannot choose.
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A public place
Name somewhere busy you can leave in the city you both mean. A club list would be fiction.
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Say the shape
Relationship, something open, or a lighter plan. Put it in the first exchange.
Questions
What does alternative cover?
Say whatever you both mean by alternative, in ordinary words: tattoos, a music taste, non-monogamy, or a faith outside the mainstream. Those are not one community. If a particular practice matters, name the practice. An account and an outgoing message cost nothing.
Can I join free?
Yes, writing to them is free. The plan is what opens their words. Reading a reply and writing back need a plan. Do not message a stranger a theory about their clothes. Do not assume a festival-goer wants the same relationship shape as anyone else.
Is there a club guide?
No, use a busy public place, and the city guide if you have one for your town. A list of clubs would be fiction with opening hours, so there isn't one. Reading a reply and writing back need a plan.
How do I end a mismatch?
Say so once, clearly; report and block if they ignore it. Say what you want, keep the first meeting easy to leave, and end the thing in words if it should end. If a particular practice matters, name the practice.