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Acting like penpals instead of dating
If you have been writing for weeks and never met, decide whether you want a date or a correspondence.
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A long, warm chat can be the relationship, or it can be a way of avoiding one. If you want to meet, say so with a place and a time. A busy café this week is a clearer offer than another fortnight of goodnight messages.
If you like the writing and do not want to meet, say that too. People can enjoy a correspondence when both of them know what it is. The hurt starts when one person is packing a bag and the other is collecting paragraphs.
On We Love Dates you can join free and send the message that names the plan. If they want the same evening, you will hear it in the reply.
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A long chat can be a pleasure, and it can also be a way to avoid a meeting. If you want to meet, say so with a place and a time you can both reach. If you want to stay in messages for now, say that too, so they are not waiting for a plan you will not make. One clear sentence is kinder than another week of jokes.
If they will not name a town, or every suggestion becomes a new topic, you can stop without a verdict on their character. You learned the pace. You can write to someone else. Suggesting the meeting is free to send. Reading what they reply needs a plan. Keep the first meeting public, and keep your own way home.