Who you might meet
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South Africans of Indian descent have their own families, faiths and views of marriage. Write to the person. Free members can send the first message, and reading and replying need a plan. Some families have strong opinions. Some do not.
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If a shared background matters to you, say that about yourself instead of screening strangers for surnames. Durban and Johannesburg are different cities. The Durban city guide names Florida Road, the beachfront and Berea for the meeting.
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The first messages can be about the week you are actually having. Messages pass through screening. Do not arrive with a script about faith or marriage.
What to say
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One household at a time
Write to the person. Durban is not Johannesburg, and neither is a family script.
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Write to them
If background matters, say so about yourself. Let them answer.
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A public plan
Use the city guide for the place you can reach, and keep the journey home in your hands.
Questions
Is there a script I should follow?
No, parents, faith and marriage are individual. Ask only if a plan depends on it. Durban is not Johannesburg, and neither is a family script. Do not screen strangers by surname, and do not arrive with a script about parents.
Can I message without paying?
Yes, free members can send the first message, and reading and replying need a plan. Write to the person, and let the first messages be about the week you are actually having. Durban and Johannesburg are different cities, so name the one you can reach.
Are Durban and Johannesburg the same?
No, name the city; the evenings are different. Durban and Johannesburg are simply the cities people most often have to name, and they are a flight or a long drive apart. If a shared background matters to you, say that about yourself instead of screening strangers for surnames.
What if a message is hostile?
Report and block: you do not have to debate it. Use the city guide for the place you can reach, and keep the journey home in your hands. A first meeting is a public place in the city you both confirmed.