Ask what the live profile means

People leave profiles up because they forgot, because they are allowed to see others, or because they like the option while telling you something narrower. Only they know which one this is.

Ask in one calm line: I saw that your profile is still live. What should I understand? If the answer matches what you want, carry on. If it does not, you can stop without a speech.

You can keep your own profile while you are still deciding. Say so if you are seeing more than one person. Join free when you want to meet someone whose answer you can live with.

What should you ask about the other profile?

A live profile means they have not deleted it. It does not, by itself, tell you whether they are still looking, whether they forgot, or whether they are dating more than one person on purpose. Ask in one sentence, without a speech. I saw that your profile is still up. What does that mean for you? Then let them answer in their own words.

Say your own boundary in the same conversation. Some people are happy to date more than one person until it is exclusive. Some want the profile down after the second meeting. Either preference can be honest. Snooping through old photos to catch them out will not make the answer clearer. If the chat turns into a row, you can stop, and you can still meet someone else. Joining and sending a message are free. A plan opens the reply.