These are THE butterflies.

One of the keys to a successful relationship is the time a couple spends together. The flip side of that, of course, is how much time the couple spends apart. Every relationship needs the balance of shared time with some solitary moments. But how much is right? It’s different for every couple, but here are some tips to decide which is right for you and your man.

Image credit: Flickr

A Little Longing Is Good

When it comes to balance, a little distance from your man does make you want and appreciate the time you’re with him all the more. So if you’re looking forward to seeing your guy, that’s good. If you’re beside yourself with alone time and feeling lonely, that’s not. To develop a healthy relationship, you must engage with hobbies and friends away from your man.

Read the rest of this entry »

So the other day, my bff/situational boyfriend and I were talking about how this girl is interested in him, but he only likes her as a friend, yadda yadda. It went something like this-

Him-”So yeah, I need to have the DTR and make sure she knows she’s in the friend-zone.”

Me-”Have the what?”

Him (blank stare)-”You don’t know what the DTR is? DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP? How do you not know this? I can’t believe you don’t know this!”

Me-”Whatever.” Read the rest of this entry »

If there was one thing I wish I could change about dating it would be that men and women could be on the exact same wavelength with emotions. Like, either you are interested in someone, or you are not. But in the real world, there are different degrees of “like” and “interest.” This is especially true when a woman likes a guy and wants to date, and the guy seems interested, and then… he pulls away.

It’s confusing, because as women we are people pleasers. We want to make people happy, including our man. So when a man pulls away we tend to do more… we call more, email more, text more…. we smother him. Which, in turn, makes him pull away more.

Read the rest of this entry »

Hi, I’m Liz and I’m now a rebound girl.

Meaning, I like him. A lot. He likes me a lot. But he just got out of a relationship, a three year, messy, disastrous relationship that just ended, literally. I find myself constantly being there for him, lifting him up, making him laugh and smile and investing.  But it’s not always reciprocated. I told myself I wouldn’t fall,  I never intended to…the first couple of times we hung out I wanted to stab my eyes out with a fork because all he did was talk about her, going around around in circles and really, at that point-what can you say? Read the rest of this entry »

Getting dumped has to be about the worst thing ever, right? Even when you know it’s coming and when you even agree with the decision to go your separate ways, getting dumped feels about as bad as losing your best friend, giving up chocolate, or starting your life completely over. Turns out, there is good reason for that. A new report on CNN says that “the brutality of loving someone who has rejected you has a biological underpinning.” That means your brain actually craves the person you were with on a biological level.

In other words, you can’t help it. You think of them, you want them, you’re sad…. and it’s not your fault. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person was right for you, or that ending your relationship was the wrong decision. What it does mean is that you have to be extra kind to yourself in allowing time to get over your break up. Here are some tips to making the transition from “broken up” to “moved past it” a bit smoother.

Read the rest of this entry »

A couple weeks ago I spent a few frustrated hours at the beach late night style, by myself sitting in the dark. I worried my sister as she feared I would be abducted and end up on Dateline next month. I was thinking, talking to friends, texting and sending pictures of my feet in the sand to twitter.

Standards, standards, standards…it was all I could think about. The standards to which I hold my friends, my parents, myself, men…probably why I’m single.

A girls gotta have standards though.

Read the rest of this entry »

This week we have launched Over50Dates.com – a brand new website specifically targeted towards over 50 dating for our more mature members!

So how different is the dating world once you’ve turned 50? That depends on your experience, and each dater has a slightly different take. One thing is for sure, dating when you’re 50 and over is not the same as when you were in your teens. Here are a couple common situations for the dating crowd, along with some advice on making your experience the very best possible.

Read the rest of this entry »

What is a situational boyfriend, you may ask? I didn’t really know until I found myself with one. I thought it was an odd concept, a guy who does “boyfriend-ish” things, but without the perks? Lame! “Just a friend?” I would ask my friends about their situational boyfriends…to which they would respond, “Yeah, but he’s more than a friend, he’s my situational boyfriend, he’s special.”

Image Credit: Flickr

I can only speak for myself, and my situation…and my situational boyfriend. Can we use SB, because “situational” is starting to look weird every time I type it. Read the rest of this entry »

I was watching this show called Moving Up, where people buy new houses and then the old owners come back to see the changes they’ve made. There was a woman on the show that had been dating her boyfriend for 15 years, and was buying a new house that she hoped (after all this time!) would entice him to move in with her. She also decorated her bedroom in black and white, even though she hates black and white, because her boyfriend likes those colors and again, she hoped this would entice him to move in.

The woman seemed nice enough. She was bubbly and a good businesswoman. She had gone from bartender to millionaire in just seven years. So one would wonder why her boyfriend didn’t want to get married? It was obvious that the woman did. She still, after 15 years, held out hope to get married to this guy. At the end of the show, he was still being noncommittal and I got the impression he was probably going to string her along for another 15 years.

Read the rest of this entry »