Paid Dating Sites Vs. Free Sites – Do You Get What You Pay For?

I think it’s mildly amusing when people dismiss dating sites you have to pay for like, and of course, simply because they aren’t free.  The best line I hear is, “I don’t have to pay to find a girlfriend/boyfriend.”

On the other side of the coin are the people who put their money where their mouth (or heart) is and fork over their credit card in hopes of finding the one.  They are, no doubt, hoping that the people on these dating sites are more serious about their love quest than those on the free sites.  “You get what you pay for” is one of their favorite lines, dismissing the free sites with an easy cliche’.

I think there are pros and cons to both paid and free online dating sites…

Free Online Dating Sites.

  • Well, it’s FREE. No hassle! Just put up your profile and hit the ground running!
  • If you don’t find what you’re looking for, it’s not like you wasted any money, right?
  • Great for the beginner online dater…stick your toe in the water, you know?


  • Well, it’s FREE! These people haven’t had to go through any hassle to put up a profile. They’ve just…hit the ground running.
  • They probably have the mentality of…if I don’t find what I’m looking for, it’s not like I wasted any money, right?
  • Because there aren’t any costs or hoops to jump through, you will have to weed through a lot more horrible profiles to find a diamond in the rough. But I know it can be done!

Paid Online Dating Sites.

  • In my opinion, people who tend to go through the trouble of paying for something, are usually more dedicated and committed to it. Usually…
  • There are generally a higher number of “serious” profiles on sites like this, and the profiles tend to be more in depth, with more questions, matching capabilities and quality search results.
  • Any fee will act as a buffer between you and someone who is just trolling the internet for a date.  Paid sites tend to attract online daters who have tried the free sites before, and aren’t looking to mess around.


  • You may be disappointed because you’ve PAID…and have yet to find someone. Your expectations might be higher than if you hadn’t spent a dime.
  • Unsavory characters are everywhere, and being a jerk has nothing to do with if someone is willing to type in a credit card number or not. So, while you think those who pay=those of quality, not true.
  • Some paid dating sites seriously make you jump through hoops before you ever email the person! I found this a bit annoying-I just don’t have this kind of time, and I’m a big girl-If I want to email someone, I WANT TO EMAIL HIM…I don’t need to go back and forth and answer random questions about if we both like apples or not.

What do you guys think about paid sites vs free sites? I’d love to hear!

5 responses to “Paid Dating Sites Vs. Free Sites – Do You Get What You Pay For?”

  1. Si Warren Avatar

    I think that there are indeed pros and cons. The free sites generate vast amounts of revenue from affiliate advertising. What really annoys me as that many of the sites are only really in it for the money and dont really have the interests of the daters at heart! Im currently setting up a site which will be completely different. Its not about the money . but really about the people. What I hear you say am I mad. Maybe! we will see.

    Cheers Si

  2. Mab Avatar

    I think you could be very satisfied with free online dating service, I won’t pay for that anyway… with my flirtmaps account I already get what I want, easy and simple!

  3. Ant Avatar

    I don’t agree with having to pay with dating sites or any other social site for that matter. When i go out and meet someone new I don’t expect them to say “to know more about me you got to pay me” so why should i pay for a site just to find someone new? Its just another ploy to take more money off you.

  4. Mitchell Gibbens Avatar

    I think this is a really interesting subject. It would seem logical that if you have to pay for something you will more likely use it properly and try to get your money’s worth. The problem is that websites like OK Cupid and Plenty of fish don’t verify their users. Adultfriendfinder has a simple verification system but they don’t enforce it on every user. I really find the whole problem with dating sites is simply the fact that generally a site is judged on how many users it has. This means that it is not in the websites best interest to really go the extra mile to keep every profile real. Obviously they do their best to keep spammers out but it does not solve the problem of un-used or fake profiles. I estimate that that 25% of male profiles are fake or un-used and 50% of female profiles throughout the internet.

    What we really need is a dating site which dominates the dating industry like Facebook does social networking. 1 Website where any and everybody can go to date and know that every possible match is in one place. It would be logical then that this website would need to enforce verification on each and every profile. Considering the vast amounts of money which come from dating sites it would be logical that this 1 mega site would donate healthily to charity and provide many jobs worldwide. Of course this site would be 100% free. This free dating site is called GiggedyGoo Join Today!

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