How Long Should You Wait Between Dates?

By: Elizabeth Marie |

There are two types of dates.

The ones you wish you could forget…and the ones where you can’t wait to see the other person again.  While I can talk until I’m blue in the face about the former (and I have and will again!), today I want to discuss how to handle it when you absolutely can’t wait to see the other person again, but you don’t want to appear too eager or too aloof…how long should you wait between dates?Obviously, there isn’t a set in stone answer.  If you have a great date on Friday night, and he invites you to hang out on Saturday afternoon, I’m certainly not going to tell you to stay home alone refreshing Facebook in some lame attempt to not be “too available.”  If you want to go, GO.

But, you don’t want to burnout too fast. When you’re first starting to date someone, it’s normal to want to spend every moment together, to blow off your friends and plans you’ve already had-but that doesn’t mean you should.  It’s not about playing hard to get-seriously, I think game playing is pretty 2008-but bottom line, you should be hard to get.  One date does not a relationship make, and clearing your schedule so you are always available isn’t attractive. You don’t want to smother them.

The more time you spend together, the more serious your relationship will get.  Give it time to develop  by not going on dates 7 days a week.  Take time to digest what happened, things he said, or to obsess about your first kiss with your best friend.  Enjoy each moment together. While you’re thinking about how you can’t wait to see him again, he’ll be doing the same thing.

While you’re dating, and even if you really really really like him, you still have your own fabulous life to attend to.  Chances are. he was partly attracted to you because of your full life-your interests, hobbies, career etc was interesting to him.  If you drop it all to wait by the phone for a date invite, you’re really not all that interesting anymore.  Keep up your life.  Stay busy and fulfilled and if you already have plans for the evening, keep them.  If he’s really interested in you for more than just some booty, he’ll be more than willing to work around your schedule.

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