What a Woman Really Means When She Says.... | WeLoveDates

February 4th, 2013 by Simone Paget

What a Woman Really Means When She Says….


Although I’m trying to become better at being direct when it comes to dating & communication, sometimes I will still say one thing but mean another. Whether it’s because I’m feeling shy about revealing my feelings, or because I’m  trying to spare someone else’s – I know I’m not the only woman who does this from time to time. I’m sure this is super confusing to men when we do this- in fact, I know it is. I can’t speak for all women, however in hopes of helping bridge the communication gap between the sexes, here’s a list of common things women often say and what often really means.

“Here, I’ll take your number and call you. Or better, yet – here’s my email” 

What this means: If I’m more interested in taking down your number than giving up mine, if usually means that I have no intention of calling you ever and am just trying to be polite. Recently I ran into a guy I had gone on a date with before Christmas. Our date was fine however, I knew that there wasn’t any chemistry there so it didn’t go any further. When I bumped into him on the street, he suggested we exchange numbers. I took down his number solely so I’d be able to screen his calls if he ever called me. On the flip side, if I give you my email it could mean that I find you intriguing, but want to get to know you a bit better (i.e. I want to see if you can string a sentence together) before I commit to giving you my digits. You’ll know this is the case if I write back to you. If I don’t, it means I was trying to be polite while blowing you off.

“Oh I’m sorry, I already have plans” 

What this means: I know for a lot of ladies, this can mean “You’re asking me out on short notice and I don’t want to look like a loser who doesn’t have anything to do on a Saturday night, so I’m going to say I’m busy even when I’m not” however, in my case, if I say I’m busy it’s because I’m actually busy – whether that means I’m hanging out with friends, family or going on another date, when I tell you that I’m busy I’m telling the truth. Trust me, if I’m into you I want to see you.

“I need space, I have a lot going on right now” 

What this means: Even when I’m super busy, if I like someone I’ll make time to see them. If I tell you I need space, it’s likely because I’m not sure about you and therefore, need space to figure this out. It could also mean that I think you’re nice, but I’m not feeling it and want to let you down easy. It could also mean that you’re smothering me and I literally need you to go away. Or, it could be a combination of all three.

“I love the way you smell” 

What this really means: I’m ridiculously attracted to you. Pheromones – those invisible love chemicals that lead to sexual attraction – are very, very powerful. If I love the way you smell, it’s likely that’s not the only thing about you that I’m smitten by.

What do you guys think? 

Simone is a freelance writer and author of the sexy and irreverent blog Skinny Dip. When she’s not writing her heart out about everything to do with love, sex and relationships, she loves wandering her city with a large cup of coffee in hand, in search of the next great story. You can visit her blog, follow her on twitter or catch up with her on Facebook. Skinny Dip

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