How To Get Over An Argument
By: Elizabeth Marie |
No matter how happy you are in your relationship, ultimately there will be an argument. It sucks, but it’s all part of dating and love. The key is finding a way to make your argument productive and semi-healthy…and then get the hell over it and go back to being lovey-dovey. Here is how to get over an argument:
1. Identify What The Problem Is.
You know when you’re in the middle of a fight, and you are both upset and you become so mad you can’t remember what you were originally so angry about in the first place? Take a deep breath and stick to the issue. An argument isn’t a free for all to attack your partner, it should be a springboard to a civil discussion.
2. It’s Not Just About Being Right.
It’s so easy to get caught up in being RIGHT…in proving your point, in having the last word and so on. In a relationship, there are two of you working together towards a common goal, and sometimes being RIGHT isn’t the most important thing. Compromise and listen. Being right alone is never as fun as being happy together.
3. This Isn’t The End.
Fighting isn’t fun, but it isn’t the end of your relationship. At least, it shouldn’t be. Arguing, while difficult, is natural and it’s crucial to remember that the difficult times won’t last forever. Think of each argument as an opportunity for you to learn about your significant other, and to emerge out the other side a stronger pair. Don’t automatically opt to throw in the towel, or walk away simply because times are tough. If the relationship is worth it to you, stick it out…things always get better.
4. Don’t Go To Sleep Angry.
I used to think this was some dopey rule from movies, but it works. Going to bed angry pretty much guarantees that you’ll wake up…angry. Not good. Hash it out all night if you need to, because tomorrow is another day, and you should spend it happy with your partner, not waste another day arguing.
Make-up sex is simply the best. Need I say more?