The Do’s & Dont’s of Getting Over a Break-Up (in Gifs)
By: Simone Paget |
Dealing with and getting over a break-up is hard. However, if you keep in mind these handy tips you’ll get through it like a champ! If you’ve just broken up with someone, here are a few things to keep in mind:
1. Do allow yourself to feel all the feelings.
Right now you probably feel sad, angry, hurt and confused. These feelings are completely justified. Instead of trying to cover up your emotions, allow yourself to feel the break-up and mourn the loss of the relationship so that you can eventually move on.
2. Don’t blame yourself.
Seriously, stop blaming yourself. You might think that the outcome might have been different if only you were thinner/smarter/richer/a totally different person, but this line of thinking is toxic. The fact of the matter is that you can’t control other people’s actions, you can only control your reaction to them. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, it wasn’t meant to be in the first place.
3. Do talk to your friends.
Don’t isolate yourself! This is the perfect time to reach out to your friends and maybe even plan that girl’s night/boy’s night out. Trust me, your friends will want to help support you through this difficult time.
4. Don’t bad mouth your ex.
Always, always, take the highroad. Bad mouthing your ex only makes you look bad.
5. Do put some distance between you and your ex.
Return and/or put away any visual reminders you may have of them in your ex and take a hiatus from following them on social media. Creating a bit of distance never hurt anyone recovering from a break-up.
6. Don’t Stalk the person you just broke up with.
Stalking is obviously creepy and wrong. However, even if you’re not peering into their windows at night, resisting the urge to check their Facebook or other social media accounts will only help you in the long run. It’s all about “out of sight, out of mind.”
7. Do take some “me time.”
Learning to be alone again after being with someone else can be challenging at first, however spending some quality time with yourself is so worthwhile. Make sure to take some time to pamper yourself and do things that you enjoy. Going to get a new haircut or treating yourself to that latte may seem trivial, but doing these things for yourself do help.
8. Don’t spend so much time alone that things start to get “weird.”
If you realize you haven’t left your house for days and you’re eating cottage cheese straight out of the container with a shoe horn, you’re doing it wrong. It’s OK to feel crappy after a break-up but allowing it to totally take over your life is only going to make you feel worse.
9. Do remember to have fun.
Hang out with friends! Drink a few cocktails! Dance the night away! You deserve a good night on the town! Just remember to be safe.
10. Don’t use “fun” to hide your emotions.
It’s always better to allow yourself to feel your emotions than to try and cover them up with booze. Although some post-breakup fun is encouraged, overdoing it is likely to result in one of the scenarios depicted above.
11. Do flirt (when you’re ready)
If you’re up for a bit of interaction with the opposite sex, a little harmless flirting might be just what you need to get you back in the game. Just don’t force it if you’re not up for it.
12. Don’t rush into anything – especially if you don’t feel 100% comfortable.
You may think that one night stand is going to make you feel better, but if you’re not feeling 100% about it, it’s likely to make you feel worse. Respect your own boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with being alone until you meet someone that is right for you.
13. Do stay busy & learn something new just for fun.
Staying busy is crucial to getting over a break-up. So, you’ve always wanted to hire a personal trainer or take that dance class you’ve been thinking about for years?! Now is the perfect time to do it! Bonus: the endorphins you’ll get from being active are natural mood boosters.
14. Do celebrate your accomplishments.
So, you’ve managed to get over your ex and learn to tap dance in the process. Time for that victory dance because you rule!