Stick With the Basics (On a First Date)
By: Jess Downey |
There are many articles on the web and in magazines that give you tips on how to have a really great first date. Most of them will tell you the kind of clothes you should or shouldn’t wear. A lot of them will also tell you what food you should or shouldn’t eat.
Sure, some of those lists come in handy but sometimes I feel like we get a little too caught up on everything that we forget about the simple little things. I mean, technically all we really want to concentrate on is having a good time (and if we want to make out at the end of the night), right?
If only dating were that simple.
But really, the next time you are getting ready for a first date, don’t forget to take a deep breath and remember the basics. Because, really, if you are sticking with the basics then you really can’t go wrong.
From the outfit you wear to the place that you go; make sure you are comfortable. If you’ve never tried sushi or bungee jumping then the first date might not be the best time to try it. Sure, being adventurous is great but you don’t have to pack it all into the first date. There’s plenty of time for that on the second (or third or fourth date). Trust me. That all goes for your choice of clothing as well. Be sure to wear something you would normally wear.
Your mama was right – never leave your house unprepared. You never know what can happen on a first date. Clearly you want to remain positive that the date will go well but it’s never a bad idea to be aware of the fact that anything and everything can go wrong. It’s not being negative, it’s being realistic. Bring money for cab fare so you can get home at the end of the night. You should also make sure to bring money to cover the bill. It doesn’t matter if your date knows that you are the kind of woman who thinks a man should pay or that you’re the kind of man who thinks you should split the bill. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.
This is probably the most important. Don’t pretend to be someone or something you are not just to impress. If you have a quirky sense of humor, let it shine. If you aren’t the kind of person who wants to jump out of a plane, don’t pretend that you are. You don’t want to overdo it but you never want a person to like you under false pretenses. And, keep in mind that you never know what characteristics someone might adore about you. All the things that you find annoying about yourself might be the very thing that someone else loves. So, really, just be yourself.