4 Online Dating Red Flags

By: Elizabeth Marie |

When you’re online dating, you’re bound to be a bit overwhelmed by all the people you initially meet.  It can be difficult to determine if each person will be a good match for you but what about ways to tell that they definitely aren’t someone you would want to date?  Those are a bit easier to find! Here are a few common online dating red flags that you should watch out for and avoid at all costs.

They are negative in their profile. Anyone who publicly talks poorly of their ex, or mentions the last bad date they went on might think they are being funny, but dating these kind of people is a risk.  Not only is negativity draining, but what if you end up on their bad side-are they going to air your dirty laundry on the internet? Don’t wait around to find out.

Their photos are inconsistent. We all post photos from different times in our lives. Maybe you used to have brown hair and now it’s blonde. Things like that are understandable inconsistencies, but if someone has photos that look absolutely nothing alike, are of inanimate objects (a car, their dog) or are blurry or it’s hard to tell what they really look like it’s best to keep your guard up.  Some people say that they are uncomfortable with posting their photographs on a dating site, but if you feel like someone is hiding something, they probably are.

They are secretive. There is no online dating rule that states you must reveal a lot of personal information in your profile, but when you begin emailing back and forth with someone you’re interested in it’s likely you’ll begin sharing some of your personal history with them. Things like what you do for a living, what your family is like and what you are looking for in a partner or relationship are normal things to discuss with someone you hope to date-you’re trying to get to know each other! But if the person you’re talking to is doing all of the asking and none of the answering, it begs the question…why?

They constantly cancel plans. The whole point of online dating is to get offline and meet someone wonderful in real life! If you’ve been talking to a potential date online for weeks and months, and every-time you make plans to meet in person they cancel on you, your alarm bells should be ringing! Sure, things come up and life gets in the way, but if they can’t commit to one date, how are they going to commit to a relationship?  This kind of behavior strings you along and prevents you from investing in people who will make the time to go on a date with you in the real world!

What are your top online dating red flags?