Is Anyone Really Out There For Me?

By: Elizabeth Marie |


I’ll be the first to admit dating is hard work. We grew up watching fairy tales that made finding love seem so easy. As children, we devoured stories like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. As we got older, we watched Richard Gere totally revamp then fall in love with his Princess, Julia Roberts in Pretty Women. We have played movies like these in our minds for a very long time in the hopes that our Prince Charming would come knocking on our door one day and sweep us away to a better life.

When you think of your Prince Charming, what’s he like? If you’re not sure, take a few minutes and jot down a list of qualities you’re looking for in a “Quality Man.” Now that you have your list, it’s time to figure out where he might be. In all honesty, the best place to find a “Quality Man” is right in your own home -at your computer- at an Online Dating site.

Spend a couple of weeks browsing sites so you can see what each one has to offer then sign up for one or two of your favorite sites. Keep in mind; it usually takes more then a month to find the love of your life.

Next, find a great current picture of yourself to post online. Men universally complain about meeting women with outdated pictures. No one likes walking into a restaurant only to find the person they were attracted to from an online photo has aged ten years since the picture was taken. It’s really an immediate turn off to men and one of the keys to a dating disaster.

Now, write an interesting profile that doesn’t start every sentence with the word I. You want to capture his attention so instead of saying, “ I love dancing” as an answer to “What’s your favorite hobby?” you might say, “dancing the salsa with my favorite partner makes me feel so alive.”

Review your list again of what a man needs to have to date you. Then, head online and start looking at men’s profiles. Try not judging a man based solely on the picture he’s posted. You might find he looks so much better in person. Or you might find his personality makes him endearing when you meet-qualities you can’t always see in a picture.

Dating is a numbers game so it takes consistency to be successful. Spend at least 20 to 30 minutes daily browsing men’s profiles, writing to men you are interested in and responding to emails men have sent to you.

Even though online dating can feel at first feel awkward, if you stick with it- it can also be a lot of fun. There is no other place where men are online 24 hours a day/7 days a week waiting to get to know you. So give it a try because you just might find that “Quality Man” you’ve been looking for!