All the World’s a Stage and So Are Relationships
By: Elizabeth Marie |
Generally, I’m a firm believer in faking it til you make it…but not when it comes to relationships. I had to learn the hard way-I’m guilty of it, of wanting a guy to like me so much that I feigned interest in things he loved, or changed the way I dressed, acted or behaved in order to please him. I would hide what I was really thinking or feeling. We weren’t on the same level, but I was desperately trying to force it. So lame, right? Luckily, Kelleye is here to shed some light on the subject, and how to handle it.
Does your relationship resemble a stage play? Do you feel as if your responses and actions are scripted according to someone else’s or even your mate’s thoughts and plans? This type of behavior is common in relationship and is even seen as normal. While some relationships can maintain a deference to one side or the other successfully, most cannot thrive under these circumstances and are doomed to fail in their constant plays for power.
So why deal with conflict? Just give in to your mate and you don’t have anything to worry about. This is a common response and one not conducive to a healthy relationship. For a healthy relationship, both parties need to be more than physically present. There has a be a present connection mentally and emotionally as well. You can’t have a healthy relationship with a puppet. The thing I can’t stress enough is the need for open communication to ensure that both parties are on the same page; and if not, can they get on the same page. If not, then you need to move on. Try making relationships less of a performing act and more of a partnership in writing the story.