One on One With The Dating Department
By: Elizabeth Marie |
Sara Altschule is a relationship expert, dating coach and heartbreak healer. Passionate about empowering women to be the best version of themselves as possible, this California girl shares her dating tips, relationship advice, fashion and health how-to’s and more on her site The Dating Department. Sara was kind enough to answer some of our dating and relationship questions, check out her answers below!
The mistake I see from both men and women is a lack of self-confidence. For women, they might feel insecure about themselves and how their date went, therefore, they tend to overcompensate for this. Texting too much, over-sharing, etc. For men, they act in the opposite way. They don’t feel confident within themselves so they aren’t as direct as a woman would like. For example, instead of calling a woman and directly asking her out for a Friday night date, he will text her and slightly hint at seeing if she is busy. One is direct and attractive, the other appears lazy and unattractive.
2. Let’s talk first date fashion! What is the perfect outfit for a woman to wear on a date? And a man?
The perfect outfit for a woman and man to wear on a date is an outfit where the person feels confident. Confidence is key. It doesn’t matter if you wear a dress that is two seasons ago. Your date is only going to notice your glowing confident smile. If you feel uncomfortable, it will show. Also, dress appropriate for the date. Think about what is going to be most comfortable. You don’t want to be wearing stilettos if you’re going to be doing a lot of walking.
3. What is your ideal dream date? Can be near or far, extravagant or a cozy evening at home.
To me, it doesn’t matter where I am or what we are doing for it to be an ideal dream date. A magical night is where my date and I are engaged in great conversation so much so we forget everything around us. We lose track of time because we can’t stop talking.
4. Dating can really take a toll on your confidence! Do you have any tips for single women who are starting to feel like they may never find love?
Dating can be exhausting at times and can feel like a never-ending game. That’s why it’s important to find the positives in it. Think about how with each date, you are one step closer of knowing what you want and what you don’t want. You are experiencing new things and broadening your world. Plus, you get to wine and dine it, and that ain’t so bad! Try to enjoy it and be in the moment with your dates, instead of thinking of the negatives.
5. Who is your celebrity crush?
My celebrity crush changes all of the time. My current celeb crush is Chris Pratt. He is not only super cute, but he also seems like he is super fun. I love his goofy personality. He seems like he has a good (and handsome) head on his shoulders.
6. 5 items every woman should have in her handbag?
Lipstick, always. A mirror, to put that lipstick on or to check if you have anything in your teeth! A cell phone. A credit card, in case of an emergency. And of course, a condom. Safety first!
7. Sex on the first date-yay or nay?
There is no right rule on when you should have sex with the person you are dating. Whether it is the first date or the seventh, it’s important that that person feels comfortable and safe with his or her date. It also depends on what the person is looking to get out of this relationship. Does he or she just want a physical relationship or a very serious long-term one? All of these things should be considered before you two get down and dirty.
8. What should a woman do if the man she’s dating begins to “ghost” — stops calling, cancels plans, etc?
If a woman is dealing with a guy who begins to “ghost,” she is clearly far better than him and doesn’t need to have that in her life. Any person deserves to at least be told the truth, instead of just hearing silence. So if this is the case, the woman should do nothing and leave that guy out of her life. Trust me, she is FAR better off without a guy like that.