This past weekend I went on a lot of dates. At least a lot of first dates for me. I was the energizer bunny of dating…I just kept going and going, because…why not? Well. While some may argue that you never know unless you try and go out with every guy who asks you, because he may be THE ONE. If I’ve learned anything this weekend, it’s that there are so many fish in the sea and while most are great…all weren’t necessarily great for me. I’ve always thought of deal breakers as these huge bright red flags that will come slap me across the face…but there are the hidden ones, the ones that pop up mid dinner conversation and leave you wondering how soon you can get out of there and what your friends are up to. I’m also a horrible serial dater because when I meet someone I like, BOOM, I’m all about him.

This weekend though, I was a certified man-eater. Lessons learned…

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What’s the worst thing you can do in your online dating profile? There are a few big no-no’s that will hurt your chances of finding true love.

Profile Mistake #1: Listing Things About Yourself Without Any Detail

Hey, not everyone is a professional writer, so if you’re guilty of listing things in your profile it’s understandable. But if you change this one thing today, you are more likely to attract someone to you tomorrow. Here’s an example of the mistake most online daters make, along with the fix:

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Sooner or later, all your online relationships will become real, or at least they should.  That’s the whole point of online dating, right? To get offline, to get real.  I was talking to my friend Jenn and she told me about a guy she met online, who was handsome, funny, intelligent, blahblahblah…they had a great couple of dates but then he ended up peeing in her bed. Sober. So that was the end of that.  Luckily, Jenn found someone else (online!) who is even better and would never urinate in her bed.

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Flirting is an important part of dating. How else can you get a girl to notice you? If you’re a guy, there is a delicate balance between flirting and being smarmy. If you’re wondering the right way to flirt with a girl, here are some suggestions.

Compliment Her Eyes or Smile

Many guys notice a girl’s features, like the color of her eyes or her beautiful smile, and it’s a natural progression to compliment her on these things. But complimenting any other body part? A big no-no. Even if a girl has, say, nice legs, a guy is wise to limit his comments. After all, flirting is done to try and get a girl to go out with you, and you only have a limited chance to pull it off.

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How’s that online dating working out for you? Many of the guys I talk to that complain about online dating have a few things in common. Just changing these simple tweaks could make the difference between an very few responses to an inbox filled with girls interested in hearing more about you.

Here are some online dating success tips especially for the guys.

Watch the Age Range You’re Searching For

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…to a girl. You know, if you want her to write you back. Or if she’s me. Carry on.

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Meeting guys online is a great way to find someone interested in a serious relationship. Not everyone has success with online dating at first. If you’re wondering why your inbox is empty and no one is flirting with you online, here are a few tips especially for the girls out there.

Post a Recent Profile Picture That Reflects Your Personality

You might love that picture from a few years ago where you were a bit thinner, tanned, and had a great hair day. But if it’s not who you are right now, then use a more recent one instead. Choose one main shot that shows you from the shoulders up, looking at the camera with a nice smile. No business photos or anything of you wearing something too revealing. Read the rest of this entry »

As someone that met her husband from an online dating site, I can attest that it’s a great way to meet someone special. But like any method where you meet new people, there are some folks who are shall we say, not so great. I’m not even talking about safety here (because we all know we need to be safe when we’re dating, right?) but rather oddities that will make you wish you’d stayed off the computer.

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One thing online daters seem to have an issue with is making the move from the cyber world to the real world. It’s easy enough to email and wink and chat online, but not so easy when it comes to setting up a face-to-face meeting. I usually advise daters to email their match to set up a coffee date time and place, and let their initial meeting be the first time they hear someone else’s voice. But there are some daters who really feel strongly that making a phone call before they meet is more comfortable for them. For those folks, here are a few words of advice.

Keep the Call Short and Sweet

One extremely bad habit online daters can get into is getting comfortable talking with their potential match on the phone. This is a mistake. First of all, the whole purpose of online dating is not to have a phone or text buddy, it is to actually meet face-to-face and start a relationship. If you develop a routine of talking to your match regularly, it could mean that by the time you meet the potential spark will be gone. Read the rest of this entry »

First dates are a bitch, aren’t they? Exciting and nerve racking all at the same time. I have been on many and have learned some interesting, if not valuable lessons on what guys should NOT do on a first date. I also enlisted the help of 2 of my male friends to get the guys perspective, because ladies we aren’t perfect either.

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Don’t Drink Too Much.
Even if you’re nervous because she’s really hot, smart and you facebook stalk her daily–just don’t. I’m not sure how to expand on this one except to say, sloppy isn’t a good look on anyone. In addition, don’t get drunk and then get behind the wheel. I guarantee she will never speak to you again. Read the rest of this entry »