March 18th, 2011 by Elizabeth Marie

How Long To Wait Between Dates!

We’ve all been there right…you meet someone online in person, and it’s perfect!  They are even better looking than their profile picture, and just as charming, witty and intelligent.  The chemistry you were afraid would be left on the internet is definitely there in real life, and the sparks are flying.

You simply canNOT wait to see this person again. But how many days should you wait in between dates?As is the nature of online dating, you probably know a lot more about this person than you would someone you just met at the bar.  You’ve exchanged emails, perhaps have  had lengthy i.m and text conversations about your hopes, dreams, and fantasies.  You know where he grew up, what his favorite movies are and, if he was honest in his profile, exactly what kind of relationship he is looking for.

Even though you have only spent 5 hours or so with your date, you feel like you know them.  REALLY know them…and you really don’t, at least not yet.  A false sense of security can be misleading.  So before you go tearing down your online dating profile and picking out baby names-give it a day or 3.  See him again, yes.  Continue to learn about the other person, and slowly, step by step you will begin to see if this really is a perfect love match.  Don’t go cancelling all your plans for the week-stay busy, keep living your life, and hey…keep dating other people.  At least for now!

Life, and love happens organically-soon you might find yourself spending your every free night with your new man.  Don’t force it though…you don’t want your new love to burn out.  Imagine your new relationship is like a fire-you have to keep adding fuel to the flames…carefully, and slowly…so it builds! I understand that this analogy is horribly cheesy, and I do hope you forgive me-but if I do say myself, it is pretty spot on. :)

How many days would you wait between dates?


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Liz

Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

One Response to “How Long To Wait Between Dates!”

  1. March 18, 2011 at 5:46 pm, Devon Brown said:

    I agree completely! The best thing in this article is the advice to “Don’t go cancelling all your plans for the week-stay busy, keep living your life.” This is something that a lot of people do not remember is important. Living your life, doing your own things, those are the things that made you you and made you the person that the other person wanted to be with in the first place. Don’t ever sacrifice you for a relationship. Make the relationship fit into the world of you.

    Date happy!

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