10 Ways to Realistically Improve Your Relationship

By: Len Cruz |


We’ve all heard, read and tried the conventional ways in making a relationship work. They’re all great, by the way. But, have you ever wondered why some of them just don’t seem to cut it?

First of all, commitment is a big necessity. It’s not enough that you do something well the first time. Follow through is much more important.

Secondly, we’re probably looking at the bigger picture. Maybe, if we just do things simpler, we might just be able to make our relationship work better for us.

10. If you want something, ask!

Unless your partner is a true blue psychic, he will never know what you want until you ask. Subtle hints don’t work. Blatant hints won’t work either. Sticking Post-Its with hearts on your lover’s briefcase won’t get you laid. Just say, “Can we make love at, say, 7ish ‘coz I have to catch the season opener of Breaking Bad at 7:15?” There you go.

9. Say nothing, do nothing

You must not say anything nor do anything when you’re HAD (hungry, angry or drunk). Before you speak, make sure that your anger has subsided, you’ve eaten and totally sober. You can’t just say “I’m sorry, I just needed some fried chicken wings, you know?” after you cursed the heck out of your partner, his family and even his innocent dog. Well darling, sorry doesn’t make it anymore.

8. Break up with Christian Grey

Or whoever it is you’re having a BDSM relationship in your head right now. Fantasy guys are there to make women happy, not demented. Do not force your ideal imaginary guy into the one you’re with now. So what if your boyfriend’s “average-looking”. He treats you like a queen! Now, that’s hot!

7. Stop comparing

Do not compare your life to others. You will never be happy. You saw photos of your friend on Instagram all lovey-dovey with her hot young guy in Amanpulo and decided to do the how-come-you’re-not-like-this speech to your man. You don’t know what they’re like when the camera’s off. People will only let you see what you want to see. He’s probably paid to do that you know?

6. Don’t let him see you do the number 1 or 2

Close the bathroom door when doing the deed. Why? Hearing you let out an automatic rifle effect in there is traumatizing. Not everyone has the will power to get over it. Maintain that illusion of alluring mystique.

5. If something’s bothering you, say it!

Okay, guys, if you don’t like the way she does the beef stew, tell her. Sure, you’re gonna get a few minutes of hardcore expletives but you’ll be doing her a favor. She’ll change her ways which will eventually make her a better person or cook for this matter. “The truth will set you free, but first, it will piss you off”.

4. Keep her on a pedestal

Never ever say demeaning things about your girlfriend, wife or occasional lover to others. Big, big turn off. Saying bad things about someone is more about the one talking than the one being talked about.

3. Brain over heart

Your brain is anatomically placed above your heart because you have to think before it beats. Hearts can be deceiving; it knows no logic. Put your mind to work. Analyze the thing that’s been bugging your brain. Start with this q: “Is it worth losing my one great love over this?”

2. Resolve your own issues

If you have a problem, talk about it. Don’t go to your friends for that. Only the two of you can solve your problems. Your friends don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. Suck it up and deal with it…together.

1. Always make an effort

I know it’s hard and can be tiring sometimes especially when your effort’s not reciprocated, but that doesn’t mean you should stop. At least, this way, you can sleep at night knowing that you always did your best. That’s love, you know?

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