A Simple Yet Effective Guide to Making A Relationship Last
By: Len Cruz |
Do you enter a relationship with a time frame in mind? Of course not! Almost everyone who accepts that love seal that binds a couple into exclusivity want it to last for a lifetime.
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. There are thousands, maybe even millions of reasons as to why relationships crumble. But, the good news is, there are also a lot of ways to make them work!
Having your dream girl accept your request for a first date is a piece of cake compared to keeping the fairy tale rolling. Now, that takes a lot of work! Let me say that again with feelings…that takes a helluva lot of work!
Establishing a relationship that will stand the test of time is hard, but it is very much doable. The fact that you’re reading this article right now means that you are willing, able and ready to do whatever it takes to keep that significant other of yours for all eternity.
This is not the cheesy guide (i.e. your pet names are Nuggets and Boogie Bear or commemorate every single moment on Facebook) to making relationships work. That’s for those who are still wearing training bras or those whose voice have just deepened. If you don’t belong in those categories, consider these instead:
Never be complacent
Complacency is a sin in relationships. In fact, it’s the enemy of success in all aspects of life. Getting the woman or man (by force or not) of your dreams will not guarantee a smooth, long lasting relationship. That’s just the first step; the easy step. You have to make an effort to make your partner stay in love with you every single day. You have to know this and take this to heart before making a move at that lady at the ____________ (insert the place where you always see Ms. Fantastic).
Go to bed angry
Better yet, go out of the house when you’re angry; just don’t forget to come back! People have different ways of dealing with anger. You cannot force someone to completely settle down and talk about what needs to be fixed in your relationship when all his neck veins are bulging and about to pop. If one is ready and the other is not, give the person some time. That whole ‘do not go to bed angry’ statement is not a law. It works for some, yes, but not to all. Instead of saying the most hurtful things in the world to the love of your life, go out or sleep it over. No amount of sorry will take away the pain of a verbal abuse.
Don’t scrimp on the compliments
First of all, they’re for free. You don’t have to pay to say something nice about your partner. Be like Bruno Mars! Treasure her! Secondly, compliments create this amazing positive energy that is very beneficial to every relationship. Be careful though. Speak only the truth. A false compliment will do more harm than good.
Eyes forward, please!
Women are known for giving their partners a timeline of all the fights they had in the past 46 years or so. That’s brain power right there, by the way. Unless, you’ve invented your very own time capsule (if you have, please email us your address and your rules of use), you cannot go back and undo them. Consistently obsessing about the bad things that happened in the past is detrimental to a relationship. It happened, accept it, move forward and create better memories.
If it won’t kill you, just laugh about it
Do not amplify problems. The goal when it comes to problems is to make them go away, not blow them up. Will it kill you to just put the toilet seat down?
What are your tips for a lasting relationship?