November 19th, 2010 by Elizabeth Marie

How To Get Over A Broken Heart

How To Get Over A Broken Heart
It’s happened to all of us at some point. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep…you have a broken heart. It’s time to put the ice cream down, and move forward…you never know who just may be around the corner.1. Allow Yourself Time To Grieve.
Truly getting over someone takes time. Give yourself free reign to cry, rant and rave, and listen to sad music while looking at old pictures. Use this time to think about the relationship and what you want out of your next one, watch sad movies, and day by day, it will get easier.

2. Stay Busy.
I know how it feels to want to lay in bed all day and think of him, but there comes a time when you have to force yourself to get out into the world and do the things you used to enjoy. You are still you, just single and fabulous. Go to the gym, hang out with friends, take your dog for a walk. Soon you won’t have to think about doing things-you just will.

3. Write Down What You Want Out Of Your Next Relationship.
Relationships are a two way street, and it’s doubtful you got to heartbreak city alone. Take responsibility for your part in the break-up and honestly evaluate what you can do differently next time. On the flip side, use this time to really think about what you want in a partner. Were there things about your Ex that really bothered you, or qualities you absolutely loved? I find writing things down makes them more tangible and real.

4. Get Back Out There.
When you feel ready, start dating again. I’m not talking “rebound” here. Take it slow but remember that a simple date doesn’t mean you’re committed for life, and that you’ll probably have to go on many dates before you find someone you want to be with indefinitely. Don’t close yourself off to the possibilities of new love just because your heart is mending, because you never know who is around the corner. ┬áTry not to compare your new relationships with your previous one, as everyone is different…that’s the beauty of dating.


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Liz

Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

2 Responses to “How To Get Over A Broken Heart”

  1. September 07, 2011 at 12:21 pm, Connor Keating said:

    Thanks for the tips. They really sound good and I wanted to ask you a question. You’ve made these tips for broken hearted girls who just got dumped by their boyfriends. But what about guys just being dumped by their boyfriends? He said he’s leaving me because I have smothered him with love, always being there, never explaining to him that I might eventually end up leaving him if his behavior towards me will not be more respectful and even though I have always told and shown him I am there for him no matter what, he still left. So… any tips for me or other guys like me? not just gay guys because I have some straight friends in the same situation just that they have been dumped by their girlfriends for the same reasons.

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    • September 11, 2011 at 6:47 pm, Liz said:

      Actually, I don’t think it matters if you’re straight/gay/bi, whatever-at the end of the day, people all want the same thing. xoxo!

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