I am thrilled to share an interview with relationship expert and speaker Lori Bizzoco, who also happens to be the creator and founder of one of very favorite sites, Cupid’s Pulse. I grilled Lori on all things dating, love and of course, celebrities!
1. I read that you met your husband on an online dating site! We love that! Any secrets to your success with online dating?
Yes, I met my husband online but it was far from your traditional online dating success story.
We met online, went on one date and when he called me the next day to say he had a good time, I never called him back. I just didn’t think he was my type. THREE YEARS LATER, he looked me up and asked me out again. Interestingly, I had just made a commitment to myself that I would throw away my checklist and open myself to dating all types of men regardless of what I thought initially. So, when he asked me out again, I said “yes.” NINE WEEKS later he proposed! We have been married for five years now and have two beautiful daughters.
My one piece of advice for meeting someone whether online or offline is to get rid of the checklist of what you think you want in a partner and remain open to meeting all different types of people. You may be pleasantly surprised.
2. What love lessons can we learn from celebrities?
In general, celebrities give us a great foundation for our own relationships.
For example: we were inundated by the news media with Kim Kardashian’s failure in her marriage to Kris Humphries. We saw the media exposure from their elaborate wedding all the way to their post-marriage living arrangements and conversations. Although edited for TV, we were able to get a glimpse of where their conflicts took place and how sometimes, being young, fantasizing about marriage (and not the person you are marrying) can be detrimental to the success of your relationship.
On the contrary, we can also learn that there is beauty in privacy. Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds did just the opposite of Kim and Kris by keeping their wedding private. They completely surprised the public.
We can also learn from couples like Robert Pattinson and Kristin Stewart that being a young couple is extremely challenging. Experiencing your first, real love is exciting and beautiful but it can also be hurtful. This also demonstrates the human side of people and that they make mistakes but can be forgiven.
Celebrity relationships whether on the screen or off can teach us a lot about how we want to handle our own personal relationships.
3. What words of wisdom do you have for women who think they will be single forever?
First and foremost, I would say “get that thought of your mind.” I was thirty-eight when I met my husband. Love can happen to anyone at anytime.
A lot of it depends on you.
Some things to think about:
What message are you putting out there to the universe?
Are you happy inside?
Are you truly open to meeting someone?
Can you envision your husband?
Try this exercise: Close your eyes and imagine your husband. What does he look like, smell like, feel like. Visualize your life together. Your home. Your morning routine. Your favorite restaurant. Try to envision him daily. Someone taught me this technique and although it felt awkward at first, I kept it up and three months later I met my husband (again).
Marriage isn’t for everyone but for those who do want to get married, it is definitely possible!
4. Favorite celebrity couple?
That’s a tough one. I would have to say that John Travolta and Kelly Preston are my favorite. I love that they have been together for so long and have gone through difficult and challenging times together, most recently with their son’s death. They are an excellent role model for couples.
I also love Julia Roberts and Danny Moder. I love that she was Hollywood’s sweetheart and married her cameraman. It is a great love story.
Another amazing couple is Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos. They are so grounded and their children remain the core focus. They set an amazing example for others.
5. In your opinion, does love find us or do we have to go out and get it?
Although many of us have grown up with the expectation that love is a fairy tale and our prince charming will come knocking on our door when we least expect it, that just isn’t true. You do need to put effort into finding someone by working on yourself, being open to meeting all different types of people, getting rid of your checklist, visualizing your partner, joining online dating sites, and organizations and getting out there meeting other singles.
6. What is one online dating mistake many people make?
A very common mistake is that many online daters rely on the photos and don’t read the profiles of the people they are interested in meeting. This can have a negative impact on their online dating experience and can also be a turn-off to the receiver of the email. It conveys to the receiver that the person didn’t take the time or have enough courtesy to find their interests, likes or even dislikes. Often, these are the areas that will ultimately connect people on a deeper level. It can also make the difference in whether or not the person emailing will get a response back.
Your turn! Who is your favorite celebrity couple?