June 25th, 2013 by Simone Paget
15 Things You Should Never Say or Do on a First Date (in Gifs)
Research has shown that we decide whether we’re interested in dating someone within the first few minutes (sometimes even seconds) of meeting. First dates are all about making an awesome first impression. To help you put your best foot forward, we’ve put together a fail proof guide of 15 things that you should never do or say on a first date.
1. Be un-interesting, literally. So, you like to sleep and eat. Who doesn’t? Do you also like to breathe?! Failing to communicate that you have any interests is a huge turn-off on a first date. If you don’t have any other interests besides dating, find some. It will make you a more attractive, well rounded person.
2. Be cocky – It’s good to have interests and be confident but no one likes someone who just talks about themselves. When sharing things about yourself, make sure you ask your date questions so that they have the opportunity to do the same.
3. Immediately write off the date – So, things are a bit awkward and maybe you don’t have that much in common. Don’t write it off the person until you’ve at least made it through one drink together. However, if things are really, really bad - it’s ok to excuse yourself – politely of course.
4. Be rude to the wait-staff – One of my biggest turn-offs is rudeness towards people in the service industry (waiters, cabbies, hotel staff etc.) How you treat the people who are helping you says a lot about your level of compassion – something that’s important if we are going to be dating.
5. Roll your eyes – Psychologists have determined that couples who frequently roll their eyes at each other in arguments have a much greater chance of getting divorced than couples who don’t. It’s easy to see why! A little sarcasm is fine here and there, just make sure to keep things light and do not insult or belittle your date.
6. Insult your date – We’ve all been on a date from hell. However, it always looks better on you if you take the high-road and politely excuse yourself rather than to let the insults fly.
7. Tell your date you love them – Want to come off as a creepy weirdo who wants to take things waaayyyyy too fast? Tell someone you love them on the first date. Boom! Done.
8. Have a full-out emotional breakdown about the perils of dating – It’s OK to talk about your dating experiences, just remember to keep things light and breezy. Sharing stories about “all your awful exes” and “horrible dating experiences”, sets a negative (possibly, totally awkward) tone to the date.
9. Revealing personal stuff that’s just TMI - So, you have a stripper pole in your living room and a sex swing in the bathroom – that’s great, but maybe you don’t want to share these things with someone you just met. We all have our quirks, but some things are better to reveal once you know the person better.
10. Crying and getting emotional – Although it’s always good to be honest about your life experiences, a first date is meant to be a fun opportunity for two people to get to know each other better. Resist the urge to turn it into a Dateline confessional.
11. Ragging on dating – You want to date and meet people, right? So, stop complaining about how much you hate dating, while you’re you know, trying to date.
12. No, seriously – Do you even want to be on this date?! Talking about all the reasons why you don’t like dating isn’t going to help your cause.
13. Be negative – There’s nothing worse than being on a date with a Debbie (or Dan) downer. So, your life story sounds like the lyrics to Alanis Morisette’s “Ironic.” A first date isn’t the time to talk about how hard life is – that’s what a therapist is for.
14. Wander into awkward conversation territory – Don’t talk about your existential crisis until date four – or ever.
15. This. Don’t ever do this on a first date.