Statistics show that over 50% of all single Britons now use online dating or social network sites in their search for love. So, the game of love has moved online and left a lot us wondering whether or not the rules have changed during the changeover. This blog isn’t going to try to tell you what to do, but what it will do is give you a few of the major don’ts of online dating.
We’ve all seen them, those profiles on online dating sites that are just begging to be ignored. They may be poorly written, crude or simply inept; but people keep writing them. Needless to say, there are a few obvious things that you can do to diminish your chances of coming across your dream partner online. This post aims to choose the top five worst things you can do when starting out in online dating, and hopefully show you how to avoid them.
- Don’t lie – It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised at the number of people that out-right lie about their identities online. So many in fact, that there are private investigators out there who specifically market themselves as providing background checks for people that you’ve met online, If you’re married, or not the age you say you are, your tryst will very likely find out eventually. In fact you might even be breaking the law. If you are married then representing yourself as single counts as fraud in many countries such as the USA, and can carry fines of up to $250,000.
- Don’t use text talk – If you’re not a fourteen year old girl then writing “u” instead of “you” online is simply unacceptable. It just doesn’t come across as all that adult, or even all that literate. Type in full, grammatically correct sentences and if you’re not sure then take a spell-checker to it before uploading. Another frequent foible of those unused to communicating online is SENDING MESSAGES IN ALL CAPS. On a social level, this is roughly the online equivalent of shouting in someone’s face; definitely not the kind of image you want to project to a potential date.
- Don’t talk about your bad experiences – If someone is looking to go on a date with someone they met online, they’re probably hoping that they’re going to be fun to be around. Moping in your dating profile is perhaps the worst way of showing that you know how to have a good time. Then again, bragging about your past conquests is probably not the best way about it either. Try to find the golden mean, coming across as fun to be around without being arrogant either.
- Don’t use an old or inaccurate photo – If you are ever planning on meeting up with the people you’re talking to, they will find out and probably react badly. It’s common sense that if you’re hoping to begin a relationship of any sort then it’s best not to start out under false pretences. Additionally, don’t keep the same photo online until it grows old. Change your main photo every now and again and test out what gets the best response.
- Don’t confine yourself to just one site – As discussed in one of my other posts, the dating game is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the more responses you are likely to get. Equally, many dating sites will just not be right for you. They may not have many people from your area, or may mainly cater to an entirely different type of person. Browse around and try to find out what works through trial and error.
To summarise: stay honest and talk in a mature and interesting way about yourself and it’s hard to go wrong!