March 26th, 2013 by Simone Paget

5 Reasons Why Online Dating is Awesome

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Even though more people are online dating than ever before, online dating sites and the people who use them still seem to get a bad rep. When I started online dating, it was mostly met with a lot of skepticism (“Ugh, how’s THAT going?”) Read any dating blog and you’ll discover that there is no shortage of online dating horror stories. To counteract that and to prove that online dating isn’t the freak show some people make it out to be, here are a few reasons why online dating is awesome:

1. It’s easy and convenient- Sure, it’s totally possible to meet someone “the old fashioned way” at a bar or a social gathering, however in these situations you’ll likely have to sift through a whole bunch of people to find out who’s actually single and interested in dating – that is if you manage to find someone you actually find attractive. Online dating sites do the work for you. Go online and you’ll immediately find hundreds of single people who are there specifically because they are also interested in meeting new people and dating. Where else are you going to find that?!

2. You’re in control – Yes, it’s true, you probably will encounter a few “weirdos” online, however you don’t have to date them or even talk to them if you don’t want to! One of my favourite things about online dating is that you’re in control. You get to pick and choose who you talk to and eventually meet up with, all from the comfort of your lap-top.

3. You can date at your own pace – Whereas going to a bar to try to meet people can be overwhelming and frustrating, online dating  is a great way to ease back into the dating scene. You can send or respond to as many (or as few) messages as you want, all at your own pace.

4. You can “meet” other singles while in your pyjamas – This is the best part! You only have to do your hair and shave your legs for your actual dates! The rest of the time you can actually cruise online profiles and send messages to eligible while watching trash television in yoga pants.

5. You might actually meet someone! – Stop telling yourself  “There’s no one good online!” You’re kind of awesome and you’re online dating. There’s lots of other people just like you online dating – it’s just a matter of finding them.

What do you like about online dating? 

Simone is a freelance writer and author of the sexy and irreverent blog Skinny Dip. When she’s not writing her heart out about everything to do with love, sex and relationships, she loves wandering her city with a large cup of coffee in hand, in search of the next great story. You can visit her blog, follow her on twitter or catch up with her on Facebook. Skinny Dip

7 Responses to “5 Reasons Why Online Dating is Awesome”

  1. March 29, 2013 at 8:00 pm, Tim said:

    2 & 5 contradict each other. One of the reasons that online dating is NOT awesome is that women just ignore messages! I mean proper messages asking them about themselves. By saying “you don’t have to talk to them if you don’t want to” you are just encouraging rude behaviour! I’m sure that you wouldn’t just ignore someone in real life if they came up and tried to talk to you? So why behave like that online? You might actually meet someone – if you are just rude to everyone then maybe that’s why you’re on your own!

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    • April 02, 2013 at 2:03 am, Elizabeth Marie said:

      Hi Tim,

      Thanks for your comment! I disagree though-it’s not necessary that you or anyone reply to every single message you get. If you look at the person’s profile who wrote you, and you immediately know that you aren’t interested, sometimes saying nothing is the best thing you can do-especially if you get upwards of 10 messages a day as I know some people do!

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  2. April 02, 2013 at 3:35 am, Simone said:

    Just to add to what Liz says, sometimes you have to pick and choose which messages you reply to. If someone isn’t interested in me I’d rather they just ignore my message than a) write back out of politeness, thus wasting both of our time or b) send a message saying “hey, I’m not interested!” or “you’re not my type”
    When someone doesn’t write back I’ve learned to not take it personally.

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  3. April 02, 2013 at 6:44 pm, Tim said:

    Hello Elizabeth Marie and Simone, well I’m afraid that you are both proving my point completely. If you were at a singles event in real life, and sometime took the trouble to approach you and ask politely if you’d like to chat, would you slap them in the face and turn round and walk off? Why do you behave like this on the internet? Surely it’s basic courtesy to say thank you to someone for taking the time to express an interest in you, but say that you’re not interested? To just ignore someone is downright rude isn’t it?

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  4. April 02, 2013 at 8:31 pm, Simone Paget said:

    Hi Tim,

    Thanks for your feedback.

    I can see why you’d feel like that. If I met someone in person I definitely wouldn’t slap in the face and walk off. However, I wouldn’t spend an extended time talking to them if I knew I wasn’t interested right off the bat – wasting both of our time. Online dating is kind of like going to a Single’s event but where everyone is trying to talk to you at the same time. When everyone is trying to catch your attention at once (or you’re getting dozens of messages a day), it comes down to answering the people who you connect with. My schedule is really busy so I find focusing on the people I’m *actually* interested in dating has proved to be a better use of my time & I’ve actually met quite a few great guys that way.

    Would you honestly prefer a woman write you back and thank you for contacting her even if she has absolutely no interest in dating you? I’m honestly curious, especially if other guys feel this way too.

    Also, you might enjoy today’s post too:

    http://www.welovedates.com/blog/2013/04/should-you-reply-to-every-online-dating-message/

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  5. April 03, 2013 at 7:28 pm, Tim said:

    Hello Simone, thanks for your reply and that’s a really interesting article that you’ve written there. Interesting in so far as you distinguish between being ignored and being rejected, because in my mind they are the same thing! Sure, you may not like the person who has contacted you for whatever reason, but surely if they have taken the time to read what you have written in your profile, and to express genuine interest in it, is it not polite to thank them for this but tell them that you are not interested? Just doing nothing leaves them hanging for days on end until it finally dawns on them that the person isn’t interested after all. Why not put them out of their misery straight away?
    Anyway, people who are receiving many messages a day are EXTREMELY lucky! I get one or two messages a year if I’m lucky! One thing that internet dating has taught me is that 99.9% of people are extremely shallow! But maybe that’s a subject for another day!
    Best wishes
    Tim

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  6. April 04, 2013 at 10:34 am, Singh said:

    Thanks

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