Women have been fighting for equality for centuries and now, in 2013, it’s starting to feel like we’ve achieved it. So why do men still dominate the dating scene and why are women so hesitant to step up and take the lead? While I admit that a man who takes charge is huge turn-on, I think we can safely give men a break every once in a while and level the playing field. After all, it’s not true equality if they’re the only ones reduced to a bundle of nerves while waiting to hear if she says yes to a date! There are plenty of advantages to asking a man out on a date yourself, so brush off your fear and jump on in!
He will be surprised – in a good way! If a dude is used to being the one asking a woman out time after time, imagine his surprise when she steps up to the plate to request the pleasure of his company. Women enjoy the feeling of being pursued, so why wouldn’t a man enjoy that as well? Everyone wants to feel desired and valued, and asking a man on a date is the perfect way to show that.
He will be impressed. Men are acutely aware of the energy required to muster up the courage to ask a woman out, so he will be appropriately impressed by your confidence in asking. And with so few women willing to put themselves out there like that, you’re sure to stand out.
You get to do what you want to do. If you’ve been waiting around for a guy to come up with a creative date activity or to ask you out to your favorite place in the city, now is the perfect time to plan your perfect date and make sure that you love what you’re doing (and don’t have to suffer through another comic book shop tour).
You get bragging rights. You officially get to put your money where your mouth is and show your friends how it’s done. When they start complaining about a guy dragging his feet, you can encourage them to make the first move. If you can do it, so can they!
Asking someone on a date doesn’t need to be a scary thing – keep it casual, be clear with your intentions and hope for the best! Just remember, she who asks, pays!