January 22nd, 2013 by Jess Downey
How Dating Has Changed (And Why It’s Good)
I often hear all kinds of ways that dating has changed. Actually, back up for a second. I often hear a lot of complaints about how dating has changed. Everything from chivalry, to communication, to the way we meet people. And while I’ll definitely agree that people are right, things have definitely changed, I think often times we’re a little too quick to jump to the negative. After all, change isn’t always a bad thing, right? Here are a few ways dating has changed and why that’s actually good.
Technology tends to get a bad rap today and even I will admit that I am guilty as charged. But the good thing is that you no longer have to feel that temptation to wait around by the phone for a guy to call. And it also helps you avoid a whole lot of troublesome situations. Remember the show Felicity? Think about how much differently it would have all gone if they had cell phones.
A gal can do anything…
It could be that I’m an independent gal, but I like the fact that I don’t have to wait for a guy to ask me out or send me a message on a dating site. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying every gal needs to adopt this attitude. It’s just nice that you have the option if you want to.
You know the nice gestures mean something
I know, I know. A lot of people say that chivalry is dead, but I don’t think it is. I think it’s a little harder to find and I also happen to think that’s a good thing. Years ago men had to be chivalrous because they didn’t have a choice. Now a days, when you date a guy who is chivalrous you know it’s genuine and not just an act because it’s something he has to do.
Dating feels special
Men and women have way more options than just getting married and having kids. Read that as: dating is a choice. And, to me, that makes dating (and relationships) that much more special because you know the person is really choosing to be with you.
Dating is fun
Sure, there are still pressures when it comes to dating, but it’s no longer a chore or a job. Case in point. Many years ago, when my mom still lived with my grandparents, they refused to let her move out until she found a guy and married him. Now, I am totally not saying that’s why my parents met (they actually fell in love and wanted to be married). But it definitely puts the pressure on when you’re ready to move on to the next phase of your life.
You can take your time and explore
You no longer have to date for the sole purpose of being married so you can take the time you need and want to explore to figure out what you want. Obviously you want to play nice and make sure no one gets hurt, but you can date someone casually or even date more than one guy or gal at once. And it’s totally OK.