The DOs and DON’Ts of Talking To Someone You’re Interested In
By: Simone Paget |
Happy December 26th! I hope everyone had a lovely holiday. Since most of us are probably still in a food coma, I thought I would share with you guys one of my favourite dating videos from the 1980’s. “The Art of Meeting Men” offers some hilariously questionable advice on how to meet people in person. However, if you look beneath the terrible haircuts and polyester attire, this 1980’s gem serves as a good “what not to do” guide for modern dating. Here’s a few things we can learn from the video:
DON’T feel like you have to be interested in sports (or something else you’re not interested in) to meet people. Contrary to what this video suggests, you don’t have to be interested in sports to meet men. Not every guy is even interested in sports! Some are way more interested in indie rock, cooking, or going to hip hop shows – in other words, stuff you’re into. Pretending to like something you don’t will only help you meet people you don’t actually have anything in common with which, kind of defeats the purpose of dating in the first place.
DO talk about stuff you’re interested in. If you’re passionate about sports or another interest, speak up! By sharing stuff you’re passionate about your eyes will light up and hopefully you’ll be able to establish a real connection. If your date doesn’t connect with your interests at least you’ll at least be able to get a good reading on whether you’re actually a good match or not.
DON’T bring “props” on your date. Unlike what the video suggests, there is no need to wear a T-shirt with “an interesting slogan” or “carry a small stuffed animal” in order to engage the opposite sex in conversation. Sure, bringing a small stuffed animal on your date is definitely a “conversation starter” – one that probably sounds like this: “Um, are you OK?!!”
DO wear things that you’re comfortable in and show your personality. I’m not going to lie – I do have a few pieces of “interesting jewelry” that I like to wear on dates (i.e. a really beautiful pearl necklace that’s from a boutique in Hong Kong) However, I like to wear them because they reflect my personality and I enjoy it when people ask me about the stories behind them. Think of a date kind of like a sexier version of a job interview. When getting ready wear something that is flattering, comfortable and shows off a bit of your personality – no T-shirts with slogans required, unless that’s your thing.
DON’T stare. Staring is creepy, yo.
DO make eye contact. Making a healthy amount of eye contact with your date is a great way to connect!
Lastly, if you’re interested in someone DO be straight forward and act natural. If you like someone, there’s no need to “whisper like you’re sharing a secret” or tell him “it really turns you on when he talks about his feelings”. It’s much easier and sexier to tell someone “hey, I think you’re awesome! Lets hang out”
What are some of your dating DOs and DON’Ts?