November 28th, 2012 by Elizabeth Marie

5 Surprising Ways To Tell If a Guy Will Be Good In Bed

Have you ever caught yourself wishing you had a crystal ball to see what a certain guy will be like in bed?  Will he blow your mind or bore you to tears?! You might think it’s impossible to tell how someone will be in bed until you’re actually under the sheets with them, but that is not the case. You can tell a lot about a person’s sexual skill even when they are fully clothed. There are always clues…if you know where to look, that is. Here are the top five ways to tell a guy will be good in bed.

He can laugh at himself. If you think about it, sex is kind of hilarious, right? Guys who don’t take themselves too seriously are often amazing in bed because they just don’t care and have the ability to laugh at themselves. They don’t care if they look weird, they don’t care if you look weird. They don’t put a ton of pressure on themselves to be the best you’ve ever had, and inadvertently that is exactly what happens, anyway. So what do they care about? You having a good time and feeling good. They take that very seriously.

He’s confident. The most important thing a guy can bring into the bedroom is confidence. If he thinks he’s sexy and incredible in bed, you will believe it too. Even if he has no idea what he’s doing, if he pretends like he does, it’s all the same to you! When a guy is confident in other aspects of his life, his time in the bedroom will be no different.

He’s attentive. Does he call when he says he’s going to? Does he listen when you tell him all about the bad day you’ve had or remember your sister’s birthday even when you don’t? A guy who pays attention to the mundane and seemingly insignificant things in your life and always treats you as a priority will make sure you’re always very well taken care of in bed.

He can move. Have you ever watched your guy dance or play a game of basketball? Guys who have rhythm or play physical sports are generally very comfortable in their own skin. Of course just because a guy has two left feet or has never played a day of sports in his life doesn’t mean he will suck in bed. Effort is what counts in the end, anyway.

He’s competitive. When a guy has a competitive streak, it means he wants to be the best…at everything, including sex. He is going to want to prove to himself and you that he can do it better and longer than any guy you’ve ever been with before. While he feeds his ego, you can simply lay back and enjoy all the benefits!

Of course, the best way to find out how a guy will be in be in bed is to give him a chance to show you. Never judge a book by it’s cover. You never know who is waiting to surprise you.


Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

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