Mature Dating: 4 Things To Do When You’re Torn Between Two Men

By: Elizabeth Marie |

When you think of entering the dating scene at this stage in your life, you might be wondering if you’ll even meet one man who catches your eye. What you might find out is that you don’t just find one great guy…you find two! Many mature daters report a surprising twist-that they have fallen in love with more than one guy. So what do you do when your heart is being pulled in two directions? Here are our tips on what to do when you’re in love with more than one man.

1. Take your sweet time. Nowhere does it say that you have to decide right away which man you want to be with. Have fun! Enjoy this time getting to know each guy and seeing how well you fit into each other’s lives. The key is being honest with both men about your relationship status, and that yes, you are dating other people. As both relationships progress, it will become evident which man is the one for you in the long run and you won’t be confused at all.

2. Don’t lead them on. Feeling wanted and sought after by not just one but TWO eligible bachelors is a great feeling as a mature woman, and you might not want to let that go. It can be addicting to be such a hot commodity! But when you do feel in your heart that one, or both, men aren’t right for you, you are going to have to cut the cord. If you don’t, you run the risk of losing them both, because they might end up feeling used and like you are playing a game with their hearts.

3. Make a list. Writing down a list on paper of the pros and cons of each man can be a great way to determine which guy is the one for you. It’s easy to get swept up in the emotions and romance of it all and be blinded to the hard facts of love. Sit down and make a list of the things you adore about each guy, and the things that you dislike. While our hearts don’t always make the logical decision, this exercise will at least guide you to making the smartest decision for you.

4. Take them for a test drive. If you’re hoping to be in a long term relationship with one of these men, it’s crucial to see how they fit into your day to day life. Introduce them to your closest friends and family and ask for feedback. Do they like him? Do they see the two of you being together for the long haul? Does everyone get along well? Ultimately, you are the one who must decide who you want to be with, but input from your most trusted and most importantly, objective¬†inner circle will help you determine which man fits into your life as a whole.

Have you ever been in love with more than one man? How did you handle it?