5 Ways To Know If You Are Compatible With a Man

By: Elizabeth Marie |

Activities you can share
Maybe you both love bowling or Scrabble and you get excited when you read a man’s profile and see you have a certain activity in common. This is a great way to start building a foundation but if you totally rely on this, and one of you stops doing the activity and switches to one you have no interest in, you could be in trouble.

#2 Chemistry
So many rely on this trait as the main one for determining if a man is right for you. Instant, hot and heavy chemistry is a hormonal condition and it can blind you to the red flags that are waving in your face about the other person. The type of compatible chemistry you want is the kind that may take a few dates to show up but is continuous and slow burning.

#3 An Emotional Connection
This is another trait that takes some time to develop. Remember men aren’t women so they aren’t going to tell you their feelings the way a friend would. On that first or second date, what he is going to do is give you information about his life in a way that will hopefully impress you enough so you’ll like what you see and want to go out with him again. Over time, a man will want to share his real life with you and want you to share yours with him.

#4 Are you looking for the best in each other?
You can’t find compatibility when all you focus on are a man’s flaws. You will never see his good side and you will ultimately toss him aside. No one is perfect although it’s nice to think we are isn’t it? Seriously, if a man has to have certain characteristics like wealth or a great job to date you, it doesn’t mean you are compatible. It just means you want a man to be a certain way.

#5 Compatibility takes time to build
Being compatible doesn’t mean having everything in common. You can be very different from each other because compatibility is a process you will create together as you build your relationship. It’s is a way of life as you learn from each other. It’s about the respect you will have for each other as well as your ability to work together when it comes to managing your differences.

So how can you tell if you’ll be compatible on a first date? You really can’t. But take a risk and know there is potential when a man is nice, is attentive to you and seems to want to please you. This is the time to give him another chance with a second, third or fourth date. You’ll start finding the common threads that are bringing you together and over time you’ll see if you can build that relationship you desire with that wonderful man you’ve found.