Is It Normal To Still Be In Love With An Ex?

By: Elizabeth Marie |

Dear We Love Dates,

My boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago, but I can’t seem to get over him. I try to date new people, but none of the guys I meet compare to him. Is it normal to still be in love with your ex?

While a relationship can end overnight, your feelings for someone can take much longer to fade into the background. There aren’t any timelines when it comes to breakups. How long you were together, how serious the relationship was and how intense your feelings were are all determining factors in how long it will take to get over your ex.

I truly believe that every time we fall in love with someone, we leave a small part of our heart with them when the relationship ends. Sometimes though, we aren’t so much in love with them anymore as we are with who we wished they could be. We’re in love with the happy times, the special memories and we’re in love with simply being in love. There isn’t a step by step guide to how to get over someone you love other than one simple word…time.

Right now, it might seem like you will be hung up on your ex forever and you will never love again! While you might always look back on the relationship and wonder what could have been if things had turned out differently, you will eventually find yourself moving on. He won’t be the first thing you think about in the morning, and you’ll slowly but surely find yourself developing feelings for new guys.

Sometimes though, we can’t seem to get over our ex for a reason. Generally, ex’s are ex’s for a good reason and they should be left comfortably in the past. But if you find yourself unable to move on, if you think they are the person that you want to spend your life with, and if they seem to feel the same way, there is nothing wrong with trying to give your relationship one more shot. But the catch? Both of you have to be on the same page, otherwise you’re just holding on to a dream, not dealing with reality.

Breakups aren’t easy. Take it one day at a time and don’t put pressure on yourself to move on faster. But on the flip, don’t look backwards for too long…turn around and face the future! You never know who is waiting to meet you.

How long does it take you to get over someone you love?

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