Love it or hate it, Facebook is the way most of us communicate to our inner (and outer) circles. We share both the mundane and the exciting moments of life and that includes posting about a new relationship. Sure, it’s great to let your friends and family know that you are dating someone new and for a lot of people changing their relationship status from “single” to “in a relationship” is a big deal but proceed with caution. Facebook drama can easily creep in and it’s hard to undo damage once it’s done on the internet.
Here are some tips on handling Facebook when you’re in a new relationship.
1. Play it cool. Being giddy about your new romance is perfectly fine. Writing status updates that say “FINALLY I HAVE A BOYFRIEND” is not. Change your relationship status and be done with it.
2. Don’t ever, ever, ever fight on Facebook. Have you ever seen a couple get into an argument on Facebook? Grab your popcorn because it is one of the most entertaining things ever. But seriously, this is a huge no-no for so many reasons. First, do you really need all 400 of your closest friends knowing that you and your guy are going through a rough patch and having a front row seat to your fights or dirty laundry? No, thanks. Not to mention that any serious discussions should never occur online. If you’re dating someone and you’re unhappy about something, call them! Or better yet, arrange a time to hang out in person and work it out.
3. Don’t friend request all of his friends. It’s awesome that you want to get to know his buddies, but let it happen in real life first before you start initiating cyber BFF status.
4. Chill out on the public lovey dovey stuff. You should see some of the texts I send my boyfriend-they are vomit inducing they’re so sweet. I’m a big fan of letting someone know how much you care about them, but for the most part it should be done privately. Your entire facebook friend’s list do NOT want to read about how much you miss your guy/love your guy/had the best time last night with your guy. Not only is it awkward, but it makes it seem like you have something to prove or are trying to brag about how happy you are. If you have something sweet to say, that’s what text messages are for!
5. Don’t get jealous. I know it’s slightly annoying when a pretty girl you don’t know posts something on your guy’s wall…you want to know who she is and why she’s talking to him. You start questioning your boyfriend about every single female in his friend’s list, and demand that he delete photos of himself with other girls. Facebook is notorious for instigating drama just like this and jealousy is usually the culprit. One of the things to remember is that with Facebook, everyone has such easy access to one another and things generally aren’t as shady as they seem. So sure, some chick your guy went to college with might say hi on his wall, but this doesn’t mean he’s secretly in love with her or carrying on a steamy affair. On Facebook, things are generally much LESS than they seem, so don’t freak out!