This past weekend I was fortunate to attend – and serve as a bridesmaid in – the wedding of a dear friend and her fiance-turned-husband.
This was the first wedding I’d been to in nearly 5 years, and the first I’d been part of since I was a flower girl in my uncle’s wedding at 8 years old.
As I get older and my friends are involved in serious relationships and begin to get married, I always find myself wondering how do they know. How do they know that this person, this one person out of 7 billion people, is the right one for them? How do they know they’re in love with that person enough to be in love with them for the rest of their life? No one thinks they’re going to be the 50% of marriages that end in divorce while they walk down the aisle. Everything thinks they’ve found everlasting love. So how do you know when you’re in love?
I’ve never been in a relationship that has had marriage potential, but here’s my semi-silly list of ways that I think I will know when I find the right one.
1. I don’t find myself wanting to strangle them after spending too much time together.
I am a moderately low-key person. I don’t feel the need to constantly be talking or doing something or going somewhere, but I don’t always want to plant myself on the couch all weekend. If I can find someone who I can spend the weekend with and not find myself irritated by their constant talking or their lack of talking, I think we’ll be good to go.
2. They tease me about my tv obsessions but don’t judge me for them.
I fully acknowledge that Grey’s Anatomy and Glee and The Voice are not the most educational of programming, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less fun to watch. If my guy can accept me as I am for these vices with only minimal ribbing, I can handle it. Bonus points if he watches them with me, though not required.
3. They are always on my side.
My most favorite part of being in a relationship is knowing that you have that one person who is your partner, who is always there for you and who always listens. Being on my side doesn’t mean blindly agreeing with me; it means supporting me in everything and gently pointing out when I may be wrong or be overreacting. It means having my absolute best interest at heart and always acting in accordance.
4. They are open and honest about their feelings for me.
There is nothing sexier than a man who affirms his love and adoration for you, even when you might not need it. A man in touch with his emotions is a man I’m interested in dating.
Are you in love? How did you know it was love?