When To Throw In The Towel

We’ve all been there. Your relationship has never been better. You’re happy and you can’t believe how well everything is going. Cut to a couple of months or years later. The petty arguments are constant now, you’re both changing and you find yourselves growing apart. What do you do?

The answer should be simple but as everything else that pertains to love and relationships, it rarely ever is. It’s difficult to determine when a relationship is really over. You may find your feelings for your partner have changed and you chalk it up to a phase and before you know it, a year has gone by and you’re still in that phase. At that point, it’s safe to say that the end of the relationship is near.

The romantic in me believes loves is eternal, but the realist knows that it can also sometimes fizzle out for no particular reason. People change, feelings change. The end of a relationship is rarely anyone’s fault unless infidelity or abuse are involved. You can’t help how you feel and you certainly shouldn’t apologize for it.

When you find your feelings have changed, or you’ve grown but your partner hasn’t, or everything that you used to find endearing about your partner now annoys the living daylights out of you, then it is definitely time to throw in the towel.

This decision can be made even more difficult when your partner is the person you’ve shared everything with, spent years with and is essentially, your best friend. As difficult as it is to be the person being heartbroken, it’s just as difficult being the person causing the heartbreak. It’s not a position anybody wants to be placed in and it can sometimes take years for someone to accept and finally say, “We need to talk because this isn’t working out.”

All I can say is, just be honest. Don’t string the other person along and don’t let the relationship get to the point where resentments fester and you end up virtual strangers with the person who used to mean the world to you. Sure it’s difficult at the moment, but there’s always the hope that you can one day be friends again.