Why Am I Still Single? From an online dating site employee who REALLY knows! | WeLoveDates

January 30th, 2012 by Elizabeth Marie

Why Am I Still Single? From an online dating site employee who REALLY knows!

OMG. Have I got a treat for you today!  The biggest complaint I hear from readers and friends when it comes to online dating is “I just never meet anyone cool – and I have no idea why. Why am I still single?” Well, what if the problem starts with YOU? My twin sister happens to work at the corporate office  of one of  the worlds largest, and most popular online dating sites, and when she offered to write a post spilling some insider secrets, I jumped at the chance. Sharing is caring!  Here she is…and of course, leave any questions in the comments for her-maybe we’ll make this a weekly thing :)


Please believe me when I say that the reason why you are single has nothing to do with how you look. Take it from me, I know.

This is why you’re single:

*you’re too picky. You expect Prince Charming, when you’re more of an ugly stepsister.  You’re 5’2 and you won’t consider dating anyone shorter then 6′. You just have a thing for blonde, blue eyed tennis players who do their laundry on Tuesdays.

*you’re not a nice person. Maybe you’re bitter or generally unpleasant. You have an attitude. Maybe someone broke your heart horribly 5 years ago and it jaded you. You think all men are dogs and all women are bitches. It shows.

*you expect instant gratification. You finally make the decision to pay for an online dating site or just start a profile and you are upset when said Prince Charming has not knocked on your door in week 1. It upsets you when no one has messaged you in 3 weeks and so you write the whole thing off as a failure.

*you cannot be bothered to write your profile. Or post photos. You feel it’s not important. Your lack of effort makes you look lazy and uninterested. Also, uninteresting. You refuse to email anyone – they should come to you, right? Wrong. So wrong. You’re all there for the same reason. Put your best foot forward, please.

*online dating scares you, but you like the attention from the opposite sex. So you email back and forth. You talk on the phone. Texting. But you delay the actual meet. You never meet. You have glorified pen pals, basically.

*you feel you are unworthy of love. You’ll find someone when you lose that extra weight. Or get a better job. Or whatever is it that you think is holding you back. The only thing holding you back is you, sweetheart. There is someone out there for the you that you are right now. You are worthy, right now. Just try asking yourself, why am I still single?

Liz

Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

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