Dating & Relationship Blog

January 30th, 2012 by Elizabeth Marie

Why Am I Still Single? From an online dating site employee who REALLY knows!

OMG. Have I got a treat for you today!  The biggest complaint I hear from readers and friends when it comes to online dating is “I just never meet anyone cool – and I have no idea why. Why am I still single?” Well, what if the problem starts with YOU? My twin sister happens to work at the corporate office  of one of  the worlds largest, and most popular online dating sites, and when she offered to write a post spilling some insider secrets, I jumped at the chance. Sharing is caring!  Here she is…and of course, leave any questions in the comments for her-maybe we’ll make this a weekly thing :)


Please believe me when I say that the reason why you are single has nothing to do with how you look. Take it from me, I know.

This is why you’re single:

*you’re too picky. You expect Prince Charming, when you’re more of an ugly stepsister.  You’re 5’2 and you won’t consider dating anyone shorter then 6′. You just have a thing for blonde, blue eyed tennis players who do their laundry on Tuesdays.

*you’re not a nice person. Maybe you’re bitter or generally unpleasant. You have an attitude. Maybe someone broke your heart horribly 5 years ago and it jaded you. You think all men are dogs and all women are bitches. It shows.

*you expect instant gratification. You finally make the decision to pay for an online dating site or just start a profile and you are upset when said Prince Charming has not knocked on your door in week 1. It upsets you when no one has messaged you in 3 weeks and so you write the whole thing off as a failure.

*you cannot be bothered to write your profile. Or post photos. You feel it’s not important. Your lack of effort makes you look lazy and uninterested. Also, uninteresting. You refuse to email anyone – they should come to you, right? Wrong. So wrong. You’re all there for the same reason. Put your best foot forward, please.

*online dating scares you, but you like the attention from the opposite sex. So you email back and forth. You talk on the phone. Texting. But you delay the actual meet. You never meet. You have glorified pen pals, basically.

*you feel you are unworthy of love. You’ll find someone when you lose that extra weight. Or get a better job. Or whatever is it that you think is holding you back. The only thing holding you back is you, sweetheart. There is someone out there for the you that you are right now. You are worthy, right now. Just try asking yourself, why am I still single?

Liz

Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

6 Responses to “Why Am I Still Single? From an online dating site employee who REALLY knows!”

  1. January 30, 2012 at 5:50 pm, theatozofdating said:

    Harsh, but oh so fair! I click on by those profile’s with no profile ads or photos. Great post…

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    • January 30, 2012 at 7:46 pm, Liz said:

      I know, tough love! :) But you are so right, we all click right by those profiles that have nothing on them! Thanks for your comment!

      Reply

  2. January 30, 2012 at 5:51 pm, theatozofdating said:

    Harsh but oh so fair! I click on by those profiles with no ad or photos. Great post…

    Reply

  3. February 02, 2012 at 1:06 pm, Jane from adult single said:

    I agree with your point of view. It is really very true. I always think about this and people should understand what you say in your post.

    Reply

  4. March 12, 2012 at 5:22 pm, Megan Jones said:

    I really relate to a lot of these comments. I was on a dating site for almost a year before finding anyone I really wanted to spend time with because so many of the people I met were either jaded or had completely unrealistic expectations. There are really great people online though. You just have to be patient and meet a lot of lemons before you find someone you really connect with. Both me and my brother found our partners online.

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  5. April 30, 2013 at 7:18 am, Qua Best Dating Sites said:

    Ouch. Some of these points are a bit harsh…at the same time, a few of them are quite spot on.
    While browsing through dating sites to review, I always see a hoard of profiles that were obviously typed out in less than a minute. There are grammatical errors, spelling mistakes, and worse yet – the most boring content.
    Seriously, the crafting of a catchy, awesome dating profile is the first step to actually getting a date online. It’s also one of the easiest things to do. The rest of the things on the list might actually take quite a bit of work – i.e. low self worth – but you can just pay someone to craft an awesome dating profile…so if you don’t want to be single no more, take that first step of sprucing up your dating profile!

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