February 18th, 2011 by Liz
How To Get A Girl To Go Out With You
…in 4 easy steps! 
Of course not every woman is the same, but I’d guess that most of us ladies have a few things in common when we’re deciding whether or not to go out with someone. Hint fellas…it’s not about money, or what kind of car you drive. Hell, it’s not really even about what you look like-although sexual attraction DOES matter.
1. ASK HER OUT.
This might seem extremely basic, but I can’t count how many times my guy friends have thought a girl was out of their league, or just been to nervous to even ask her out. You won’t know unless you try, and while putting yourself out there is scary…so is the threat of living a lonely life, right?! RIGHT. You never know, she could be hoping you get the nerve to ask her out finally. Don’t psych yourself out, guys!
2. Be Interested In More Than Just Her Looks.
Like I said, physical and sexual attraction is key. Most first dates are based on this, and that is fine. I’m just saying that when you do ask her out-ask about her day, as well…or something. Show that you’re interested in more than just her pretty face or hot body-girls like this kind of stuff. Trust me-I am one.
3. Confidence!
This is the magic word…I believe that with confidence( NOT arrogance), you can get any girl in the world to go out with you! Women are attracted to confident men for a multitude of reasons. For me, I like confidence because it makes me feel safe and also challenges me to be confident in myself. It’s just a sexy trait to have-and that is why no matter what you look like or how much money you make, if you’re confident in who you are, it won’t matter.
4. Be Persistent…Not Creepy.
Some girls say no right away, to just about anyone. I don’t really understand this game, but I do like to see that a guy is genuinely interested in ME, and not just getting laid. I might give him a hard time, or play a little hard to get-just to see if he’ll be persistent. I might get a lot of men not liking this…but women like to be chased, just a bit. And hopefully, she’s worth it. Also-persistent does not mean sitting outside her house or work, or being rude and aggressive. No means no, and use your head-creepy isn’t a good look on you. You should be able to tell the difference between flirting and a hardcore she’s just not that into you scenario.
Hopefully, she’s just flirting though
February 21, 2011 at 8:41 am, kim said:
Ok! Although, I agree with you… I must add the following just incase a man is reading…we need to make sure he doesn’t misunderstand “be persistent “!!! It has been my experience with my past relationships that guys think that this means something different than what women do! If a girl says no over and over, good chance that she is not interested and really means NO! There is nothing better of a turn off than a guy that has no backbone and confidence to say “forget her”!
A women wants a man that that’s charge and knows his worth! No guys that doesn’t mean a dating every girl you see or treating the girl as if she is less than you! You shouldn’t carry a mirror around with you but you should take a peek in it when you pass one!
Why do we as women play games? In the blog you wrote you don’t understand why some women decline a date even though they really want to go! Truth is this is true! Women (not all) some women play games and act interested when they aren’t to have a fallback guy if she can’t find anyone else! It drives me crazy and im not even a guy! Don’t play games because of you we have men asking us out and even when we say no thank you…they think we are playing hard to get! Which in the long run hurts both parties because eventually you have to say “NO dummy” I don’t like you!save us all the trouble and stop playing games!
Women know after the first five minutes if they are interested or not! Hell most of us know as soon as we lay eyes on them! If after the firyoudate you know he makes you feel nothing… leave him go find someone that will get butterflies when he talks to her!
Guys…. im not even going to start on them right now! But we have to start somewhere! Everyone wants to find love… let’s focus on helping the process along by being honest!
happy dating people!
February 22, 2011 at 9:19 pm, Liz said:
Such great insight, Kim! I agree with you completely!
May 23, 2011 at 7:20 pm, gherimyah said:
But every time i ask any girl to go out with me they always say do you have a big a sorry for my language
May 28, 2011 at 1:35 pm, Damion Cole said:
look when i ask a girl out she says no. then when a sweet girl breaks up with her boy friend and she never gets on facebook any more whats wrong with the sweet girl.
November 20, 2011 at 9:38 pm, Bubbi said:
Appreciation for this
August 07, 2011 at 12:13 pm, sam said:
i try all of them and they dont work
October 18, 2011 at 5:02 pm, adam said:
Hi Kim the props is I think the girl likes some one else so now wat I do. My mate said I should ask her out not sure get back to me plz
February 14, 2012 at 4:53 pm, Greg said:
Every time i ask a girl out they say they’ll think about it for weeks but if i keep on about it they usually will say yes so one rule when you date somebody guys and girls BE YOURSELF it never matters about the looks its about whats inside you and whats your personality find someone that is just like that then your all good
February 19, 2012 at 8:32 am, Chado said:
To Kim … That’s bs to talk for majority of all females , ur just not opened mined . I’ve had many women turn me down at all ages. But my presetence of game turned there answer around with in the first 15 min . With females it’s allll about emotion and vulnerability . If u can get them to open up with any stupid or clever line ur in ! Lol that easy but it takes practice only cuz ur minds not ready for the next level . For example I’m waitin in line to go in a bar … Im just chillen by myself but I can’t stop my self hearing this very attractive women talking about how this dude doesn’t recognize her (when we all know he is , but it’s called arrogance ) and she telling her friend how she just got these new shoes blah blah ect ect , then I moved on with my night . Little did I know I was gonna run into her at the end of the night , first think I told her is I like her shoes lol! She was flattered only cuz I’m a good listener . I respect what she has to say even iff it means nothing, but the key is confidence ! Be a man , take charge , don’t give a fūč/< !! And be urself ! … Only downside ur prolly not gonna find a decent chick in a bar . There there to have a good time look good blah blah same as u should be doin . Dont have to be life of the party just cruise have a good time ,
Ps
It's prolly better to get the female mind set out! They can read it from a mile away! And that my friend is y they turn u down
"chado" much love playy onn!