November 10th, 2010 by Elizabeth Marie
What To Do When He Pulls Away
In talking to some girl friends lately, we all seem to be dealing with the same problem. We’ve met great guys! Everything is going so well, you’re excited to give this a shot until…he slowly starts to pull away and you don’t know why. You’re confused, sad and angry, and aren’t sure how to react.
1. Take a step back. Not in a “game playing” way, but in a way that allows you to see the situation for what it really is. Were there signs along the way that maybe he wasn’t as into it as you, or did he ever give you any indication that something serious was not on his agenda? Sometimes we can get so caught up in the moment that we miss the signs, especially the ones we don’t want to see.
2. Live your life! There are a multitude of reasons why he (or she) may be pulling away and it truly doesn’t do you any good to put your life on hold because you’re waiting to hear from him. Hang out with your friends, put more effort into your work, do things that make you happy-in the end, regardless if this guy stops pulling away or not, NOTHING makes you as irresistable to the opposite sex as having a full, happy life of your own.
3. The C word! YEP. COMMUNICATION. I know that right when you’re starting to date someone, the last thing you want to do is have “big talks” or seem “DRAMATIC”…but honesty is the best policy, and your feelings are valid. Just be sure to be calm, non-accusatory and prepared for an answer you might not want to hear.
4. Move on. Check your dating inbox-you never know who might be waiting to hear from you! Give other guys a chance. It’s pretty much a known fact that once you are interested in someone else, Mr. Pull Away will come crawling back…and then, it’s up to you.