4 Ways To Blow Her Mind In Bed | WeLoveDates

January 5th, 2012 by Elizabeth Marie

4 Ways To Blow Her Mind In Bed

I do a lot of writing for the ladies-how to turn him on, drive him crazy, make him want you…but what about you?  Shouldn’t he know how to turn a woman on, drive her crazy and make her want him?  Absolutely, it’s only fair.

1. Treat her as more than just a means to an end. 

You want to have sex with her-of course you do, why wouldn’t you?  But remembering that she is more than just a way for you to get your rocks off does wonders for improving your sex life.  Women need to connect on both mental and emotional levels, as well as sexually…cover all three of your bases and things will get uncovered before you know it.

2. Take care of her first

I know this one is mentioned a lot, but I think you would be surprised to find out how many men do not follow this cardinal rule.  Maybe you forget because your own pleasure sits front and center, or maybe you just get too caught up in the moment, but do your best to pay attention to her needs…she will definitely thank you for it.  Plus, who do you think she’ll call next time?  Yep! You, sir.

3. Don’t be creepy!

It’s impossible to force a connection, and sometimes sex is just that…sex.  Some guys try to play the Don Juan card, and it ends up being really creepy and weird, trust me! Don’t make it something that it’s not, which in turn only complicates things and makes it very awkward for everyone.  Relax and take the pressure off of her and let things unfold organically.

4. Be a Gentleman

Even if you just had the raunchiest sex with her, you still need to treat her with respect.  This means calling when you say you will, listening when she talks and looking at her eyes, not her boobs, and being an all around good guy.  It doesn’t matter if you don’t want anything serious-it’s just about being courteous to someone who lets you see her naked.

Seems fair to me.


Liz is We Love Dates social media manager. A former marketing account executive in the fashion industry, a bad breakup spurred Liz to start her first blog 5 years ago and she has been happily over-sharing with anyone who will read ever since. Obsessed with all things dating, love and tech, Liz has been referred to as the brunette Carrie Bradshaw on more than one occasion. If it's a day that ends in "Y", most likely you will find Liz furiously typing away on her laptop with a huge espresso nearby. Or two. Follow her every thought on Twitter and Google+.

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