Inspired by a scene from the movie “Fatal Attraction” where the family pet was given an unfortunate introduction to a saucepan, the phrase “bunny boiler” is used to describe an unhinged, scarily obsessive and extremely jealous woman.
If you’re worried that your girlfriend may fit into the category of “bunny boiler”, here are fifteen warning signs to look out for.
1) She texts and calls you non-stop
A bunny boiler will constantly bombard her boyfriend with messages and calls to keep tabs on him and make sure she knows where he is. She would probably be happiest if you had a GPS tracking device attached to you, so she could know your location at all times.
2) She doesn’t have many friends of her own
This is a major warning sign. If your girlfriend’s life revolves around you and she doesn’t have any friends of her own, ask yourself what she’s done to lose them all?
3) She doesn’t get on with your friends
If she makes no effort with your friends and seems to dislike them from the start, you should be worried. She will probably try to isolate you from them or turn you against them so it’s just the two of you.
4) She uses emotional blackmail on you
The chances are that you’ll be constantly feeling like you’ve let her down or you’re in the doghouse. Watch out for these mind games, it’s just another way of controlling you and making you feel bad so she’s got the power.
5) She’s always questioning you
Bunny boilers are notoriously suspicious, so watch out for being bombarded with questions about where you’ve been, who you’ve been talking to and how long for. It’s not her being interested in your life, she’s just looking for ways to trip you up so she catches you out somehow.
6) She has an aggressive side and a bad temper
You may think you’re dating a girl who’s bold and feisty at first, but watch out for this aggressive side – as the old saying goes “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”.
7) She tries to manipulate you and take control of your life
Bunny boilers like to take charge, so watch out for her trying to take control of your life and the major decisions you make.
8) She’s very jealous and paranoid about you cheating or getting female attention
You may feel like you’ve got a constant headache from the grief you get about communicating with other women. Bunny boilers are extremely jealous of all females, even if they are older work colleagues, family friends or people that pose no threat at all.
9) She stops you from having any female friends
As soon as a woman starts banning you from having female friends – it’s time to get out of there. She’ll see every female friend as a threat and assume you’re getting up to no good, so she’ll do her best to make sure she’s the only female friend you have in your life.
10) She has a split personality
Watch out for a girl who is timid and sweet one minute, then fiery and angry the next – this split personality can only spell out one thing – psycho.
11) She never shows empathy for others
If your girlfriend always plays the victim but doesn’t ever show any empathy for others, she probably wouldn’t ever feel any guilt for her crazy behaviour, as she can only see the world through her own eyes.
12) She can’t handle criticism
Be careful of the girl who can never take any criticism and instead sees it as a personal attack. This is another example of making herself the victim.
13) She always has to get her own way
There’s no reasoning with a bunny boiler, her way is right, your way is wrong. You may find yourself pandering to her for an ‘easy life'; allowing her to always get her own way so you don’t find yourself in an argument.
14) She doesn’t want you to spend time with anyone else but her
Forget about friends, family or colleagues you want to meet up with – with a bunny boiler, it’s all about you and her. If you hint that you’d rather spend your free time with anyone else, then the green-eyed monster may start to surface.
15) She turns up unannounced at work or when you’re meeting friends
Beware – this girl is suspicious. She’ll make out it’s a “cute surprise” but really these out-of-the-blue appearances are just a way of checking up on you.
So now you’ve got more of an idea of some of the traits of a bunny boiler. In summary, this type of girl is super paranoid, controlling, obsessive, jealous and downright crazy. If your girlfriend has started to show a lot of these characteristics, it may be time to rethink if she’s the right girl for you!