There’s plenty of advice out there on the best places to take a first date, the ways to pull out all the stops and to impress them. But what about the places that you should avoid? It’s so easy to get caught up in the things you should be doing that you forget about the things that you shouldn’t be. With this in mind, here’s our guide to the very worst places that you could take a first date.
We’ve all seen the films right, where the cute couple go ice-skating together and they giggle as they hilariously pull each other over? Real ice-skating isn’t like that. It’s cold, it hurts when you fall over and, if you’re on a first date, the last thing you want is to be in that horrible state where you’re freezing cold but still somehow sweaty. Let’s face it, forced hand-holding with a near stranger is never fun.
An art gallery
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking art galleries in general but for a first date, there is nothing right about them. First of all, you’re forced to awkwardly wander in silence for a few hours and probably won’t get to know anything about your date at all. Secondly, the atmosphere is sterile and serious (not exactly heart-melting stuff) and thirdly, well… you can’t calm your nerves with alcohol! Save the art gallery date for when you’re an established couple and you can unselfconsciously share your opinions.
Your birthday party
You might think that this is a great way to break the ice and get to know your date in a fun atmosphere that isn’t awkward. However, at your own birthday party, you’re not going to have the time to dedicate to just one person. More likely than not, you’ll spend the entire evening running between groups of friends, work colleagues and family, trying to spend a little bit of time equally with everyone. Also, by the end of the night you’ll probably be very drunk, more drunk than is charming on a first date.
I’m not sure that anybody would actually think that taking a first date to a wedding is actually a good idea, but with the pressure of being the only singleton at the day of love, as well as that daunting “+1 guest” on your invitation, I can see how it could happen. However, weddings are days dedicated entirely to love, to commitment and to all things ‘serious’ about relationships – so unless you want to spend the day dodging questions from strangers about when you two are going to tie the knot, leave the wedding date to when you know a little bit more about each other.
A music gig
Here you’ll face similar problems to the art gallery situation except: the opposite. It’s too loud. You can’t hold a conversation. You can barely even hear each other. By all means, if you’re seeing the band that brought your two lonely hearts together in the first place then it could be a meaningful date, but if you just thought it sounded like a slightly aloof and sexy thing to do, then it might not work out so well.
I’m not sure how far along the history of first dates that ‘the cinema’ became not only a viable option but actually one of those fall-back classic first dates. I just don’t get it. Sure, you can bond afterwards over your thoughts on the film, but why sit in silence for two hours first? To me, the winning way to do it is to have dinner first, get to know each other a little bit and then hit the film to finish off the date. Perfect!