During the holidays, sometimes nothing feels more daunting than being single on New Years Eve. Having been unattached for many, many a NYE, I can tell you that the struggle is real. Even though I had a great group of friends and the idea of spending the last night of the year partying with them sounded great, I knew that when the clock struck 12, I’d be the one awkwardly standing alone playing on my phone, with nobody to kiss. However, New Years Eve doesn’t have to be bummer-fest 2013. If you’re single this year, here are five things to do that don’t involve kissing your cat at midnight.
1. Stay home and reflect.
I know I’m supposed to tell you to get dressed up and hit the town, single or not (and I will!) but hey, there is nothing wrong with staying home, especially if most of your friends are coupled up. Why put yourself in a situation that might make you feel sad? If you are going to stay home though, there are some ground rules. First, no wallowing. You’re staying home because you WANT to. Second, make it special…this is New Years Eve! Make yourself a delicious dinner (or order one in), pour some bubbly, watch your favorite tv shows. Relax, reflect and recharge!
2. Go on a first online date.
Because, why not? There is no rule that says you can’t go on a first date on a holiday. If the date goes well, you’ll have a great story and if the date is from hell, at least you tried! Dinner is dinner, whether it’s the last night of the year or the middle of May. If there is someone you’ve been wanting to meet who wants to spend their NYE with you, go! At least you’ll be closing 2013 with an adventure!
3. Sign up for online dating.
If you want to make sure that you aren’t single next NYE, you’ve got to be proactive. The end of the year is the most popular time for online dating, as many singles just like yourself decide that this is the year they will find love. What this means for you is that there will be a ton of eligible men and women online waiting to meet YOU. It’s not lame to spend your New Years Eve working on your online dating profile…it’s actually pretty awesome to take control of your love life. If not now, when?
4. Go out! Say YES!
If you’ve been invited to a party or NYE event, it might be in your best interest to accept the invitation…you never know who you might meet! Even though it may feel like it, you won’t be the only single person at the party. See that guy all by himself by the bar? Go say hello. Maybe you will have someone to kiss at midnight after-all!
5. Enjoy the moment.
Wherever you are, whomever you’re with this New Years Eve, take a moment to look around you and really take it all in. Sure, right this second you’re single, but you never know what the next year-or heck, what the next week-will bring you. There is nothing wrong with hoping for love, and wishing you were in a relationship with someone to kiss at midnight and beyond, but there is also nothing wrong with being single and free. Finding happiness, even if it’s just a sliver, in where you are right this moment is the first step in attracting someone great.
Cheers to 2014! What are you looking forward to in the new year?