Although the foundation is the same, the rest are different when it comes to mature dating. Those tricks and techniques that are acceptable and have garnered a good outcome earlier in one’s life will not be suitable in later years.
Often, by this time in your lives, all the passive things that come with relationships in young adulthood should have been removed. But, if there are still some things that are lurking underneath that calm aura afforded to mature people, then you should read on. Here are some feasible tips to help you ease your way into the mature dating scene.
1. Violate convention
Kill that mental list you have since third grade of the perfect mate. Putting prerequisites on love is the best way not to get it. Think out of the box and color beyond the lines. We’re not saying that you should settle for whoever is available. We do, however, recommend that you give someone who you wouldn’t normally date a chance. Allow yourself to unfold to a person who doesn’t fit your bill.
You passed up on the opportunity to get to know a lovely lady who also happens to be intelligent and kind only because she hates watching football? Here’s what you can do: call up your best bud who is equally in love with football just like you and start a bromance. You’re fifty-two years old, get past the pettiness.
2. Solve your insecurities first
Drastic makeovers will get you noticed, true. Whether you have the mother of all facial surgery that will make Jocelyn Wildenstein look like an amateur or have a “conquer” in Old English font tattooed on your lower belly (plus an arrow pointing south), deep down inside, it is still you. Work with what you have.
You may not be as perky on some areas that are supposed to be, but you have more to offer than just being BFF’s with gravity. Changing your appearance is good, but it’s only a bandage. Treat the wound first. Change the way you look at yourself. Dig a hole and bury those self-doubts that have been haunting you for so long.
3. If a potential beau has too many foibles and issues, ditch!
Haven’t you had enough of those already? Isn’t that the reason why you’re looking for a new paramour right now? Do we really need to emphasize the fact that life’s too short for BS?
What we’re about to say is full of love and compassion, like a best friend would: stop being an idiot. Don’t tolerate a bad attitude only to avoid being alone. The worst thing you can do to make your life a notch harder is to settle for less just because you’re afraid to look for the best. You probably have less dating years but that’s not a good excuse to start a relationship with Satan’s favorite nephew.
It’s simple logic. Would you rather spend forty more years with an ass or five years with an angel? If you stopped – even for just two seconds – to come up with an answer, you need to go to the corner and rethink your life.
4. Treat a date as it is, not a precursor to a ‘happily ever after’
Keep your hopes to a minimum. Don’t feel bad when the date doesn’t turn out the way you hoped it would. Dating is a way to check if you can have a possible romantic relationship with a certain someone. It is not an audition for your next husband or wife.
5. Have tons of fun!
Some mature daters are emotionally guarded, probably due to years of rough experiences. Their most convenient answer to their somewhat ‘constipated’ attitude is this: ‘Life happened to me’. Well, it happens to all of us.
Shake off that rigid temperament and just have fun! When you possess a good vibe, it will shine through on your exterior and you will attract more people. It’s like magnet that pulls good people in. Plus, happiness will keep you forever young! Who doesn’t want that?