There’s no doubt that dating has changed a lot since the 1950’s. For women of that era, dating meant putting a man’s needs and desires first and foremost, all with the end goal of finding a husband. Outspoken? Enjoy Sex? Sorry, doll – you’re out of luck. To be frank, I don’t think I would have fared very well as a single woman in the 1950’s – and I’m sure I’m not alone. However, as much as it pains me to say this, after doing some research I realized that some of the dating rules of the 1950’s aren’t so bad after all. Here are a few of my favourites, with some modern updates thrown in.
1. Don’t drink too much –
This is actually good advice for both genders – that’s right guys, we don’t like it either if you get blackout drunk while you’re on a date with us. If you’re passing out cold during your dates, you’re doing it wrong. Although it’s sometimes nice to have a drink or two to help calm first date jitters, drinking too much not only clouds your judgement about the person you’re with, it’s also compromises your safety.
2. Focus on your date (oh, yeah and don’t pass out!)
If you do anything during your date, make sure you a) stay conscious b) pay attention to them. Talking and flirting with other people while you’re supposed to be getting to know your date is just bad manners. Same goes for touching the hair of strangers sitting next to you. Don’t do it people! Respect the hair!
3. Don’t cry.
No one – man or woman – wants to see their date cry. There’s a big difference between being in touch with your feelings and having a complete emotional breakdown during a date. Forcing emotional intimacy with someone you don’t know very well is also not cool. When in doubt, keep the conversation light and fun until you know the person better.
4. Ease up on the PDA…or at the very least, trying to groom your date.
I’m of the school of thought that if the level of comfort is there, a little PDA is totally fine! Trying to clean your date’s ears with your finger however, is not. Respect your date’s personal boundaries and don’t be gross!
5. If you’re dating other people, be discrete –
It’s OK to be honest that you’re seeing other people, however be discrete. No one needs a play by play of all the other awesome dates you’ve been on lately. If you are seeing multiple people, at least have the common sense to take them to different restaurants/coffee shops/locations.