5 Lessons About Dating We Learned from the 2013 VMA’s

By: Simone Paget |


From Miley Cyrus twerking on Robin Thicke and Lady Gaga’s clam shell bikini to an impromptu Nsync reunion, this year’s VMAs were definitely a night to remember full of crazy performances and celebrity drama. However, behind the oversized teddy bears, laser lights and Robin Thicke’s Beetlejuice inspired suit lie some very deep truths about love, life and dating. To make you feel better about the possible brain cells you may have lost while watching Sunday night’s show, here are 5 lessons about love and dating you can take away from this year’s VMAs.

1. Sometimes trying too hard looks exactly like….trying too hard – Former teen queen Miley Cyrus twerked on Robin Thicke and did things to a foam finger that cannot be unseen – all while seemingly being unable to keep her tongue in her mouth for longer than 5 seconds. Although the performance was definitely attention grabbing (no pun intended), the whole thing wreaked of eau de desperation. When you’re dating it’s easy to go overboard trying to impress or get attention from someone, to the point where you actually freak the other person out. Reel it in. Keep it simple. Be yourself. Resist the urge to tear off your clothes to reveal a flesh toned bikini and awkward dance moves. I’m sure the foam finger will back me on this – no one needs to see that.

2. Less is more – When it comes to dating, don’t be a Miley, be a Kanye. Although I can’t believe I just referred to Kanye West as an actual role model, there’s something to be said about a superstar who get on stage and sing his latest hit with very few bells and whistles. It’s easy to get wrapped up in trying to impress your date with clothes, trinkets and other shiny objects, but at the end of the day, the best asset you have is your own personality. Be yourself and don’t be afraid to open up.

3. Making public digs at your ex is never a good look – Did anyone else cringe when Taylor Swift gave a smirky nod to her ex Harry Styles in her acceptance speech for Best Female Video for her song “I Knew You Were Trouble”? (“I also want to thank the person who inspired this song, who knows exactly who he is, because now I got one of these!”) Taylor calling out her ex on television is the showbiz equivalent of people who post passive aggressive notes on Facebook about the people they have recently broken up with. It’s awkward for everyone and says more about them than their ex.

4. Always, ALWAYS take the high-road – When it comes to interacting with your ex, take a page from Harry Styles at the VMA’s – instead of boo-ing your ex, keep it classy, politely smile and clap.

5.  Love and understanding go a long way – That’s the only way we can explain why Robin Thicke’s gorgeous and talented wife Paula Patton is reportedly OK with his performance on Sunday Night. Loving someone means accepting them as they are, Beetlejuice suit, Jordan Knight haircut and all.